Bella’s guilt caused by her mother’s fear of loneliness has left her short of any male relations. She cannot escape the wrath of her mother, and continually surrenders to her mother's will. Also, Bella has felt she cannot start her own relationship because her mother, in an effort to protect her living children, she has trained them not to feel by hardening them with punishments such as locking them in a closet or beating them with her cane” (Bloom, Harold. “List of characters in Lost in Yonkers. p67-68).
The values of heritage seem to have been lost with the gain of knowledge when Dee has gone to college. Her actions she displays when she comes home for a visit are shocking to her family. It is almost as if Dee is using them for a show, rather than a visit that has been well overdue. It’s one thing to know what heritage is but another to understand what your heritage is. Mama was always one who could not say “no” to her daughter and she always tried to please her regardless if her daughter appreciated it or not.
In the beginning of the book, when Dave talks about when the family was once good, he calls his mom, “Mom”. He later on calls her “Mother” when she becomes abusive. He does this because he became distant from her when the abusive started. He didn’t feel safe referring to her as mom anymore because she wasn’t the nurturing mother that she once was. Before the abuse, Mother would’ve done anything for her family.
(291) Mother was working days at her job and decided to start on night so that she could spend the day with Emily. The system of work and taking care of emily hardly lasted. The mother sent her to his family and left here there. When life got better for mother, she raised the money for Emily's fare back. “when she finally came , I hardly knew her, walking quick and nervous like her father, looking like her father, thin,and dressed in a shoddy red that yellowed her skin and glared at the pockmarkes.
In the film Real Women Have Curves Latina teenager Ana Garcia struggles on trying to balance her family’s culture and her own beliefs that seem to differ very much from her family’s. This becomes a problem throughout the movie. Her family wants her to be doing something that she is not nearly interested in. The problems mainly break through with Ana’s mother whose name is Carmen. Throughout the whole film you are able to see how the culture differences between Ana and her mother Carmen affect their mother and daughter relationship even till the last moments of the film.
One observation that I made about Faye, from A Secret Sorrow, is that she is always thinking of her family members before herself. Instead of feeling sorry for herself, she is more concerned about how her condition will make Kai react. Then once the two of them adopt their three children, she takes advantage of the time she has with her them that she thought she would never have. On the other hand, the woman from A Sorrowful Woman hides herself from her family even though she knows the time she has with them will be cut short. She did not take advantage of precious time that she
However, in the story "Girl", written by Jamaica Kincaid, also the anonymous poem, "Edward, Edward", mothers and their relationship with their children were depicted in the exact opposite of what was expected. Obviously, the initial expectation of a mother being present would serve as a means of love, encouragement and overall positivity. They were expected to have their children's best interest and to provide the best possible advice that a mother could give. However, in the texts, the mothers served as a means of creating hostility. This, ultimately strains the relationship between them.
Here are some reasons: Economic recession, infertility, education and career ambition, or medical issues, might make a woman not want to be a mother. Jessica Handler is choosing childlessness because of her biological dice is facing disbelief and disapproval from friends, family, and society in general. I agree with the choice that Ms. Handler made to not be a mother. Being an effective parent is a huge responsibility that a responsible woman needs
In the 1950’s, there were wives who were suffering from depression. Women sacrificed a lot for their families during this time (MailOnline). Some women did not get to further their education because they had children in their early twenties. These women were unable to go out and participate in activities outside of the home because they had to be the “perfect housewife” and manage the home (Lamb). It was like they were confined to the vicinity of their home.
One similarity that the mothers and daughters in the book shared with Tan and her family is that all of the parents had high expectations and goals for their children. Also, when all of the daughters were growing up, there was some sort of family secret kept away from them. Another parallel between the author and the characters in the book is that both of them had lost something that was meaningful to them. The parents, mainly the mothers, pushed their daughters to the highest possible point of their ability to achieve successful lives. The daughters in the stories thought their mothers were very pushy about some things and they did not like it.