Academic Stress – Some teenagers are under a big amount of pressure to succeed academically, especially when the rest of their family is successful too. Social Anxiety or Peer Pressure – When you grow up, you learn about the social world and the society. Popularity is really important for most of us, and for some who are not popular enough it can be very unsatisfying. The peer pressure nowadays to do things such as drugs, drink or other behavior may be traumatic for some teenagers who are not comfortable to do such things, but do them anyways because they are afraid they will not fit in and look bad in front of their friends. Romantic Problems – For some people, relationships and romantic entanglements may cause trauma in their life.
The problem arises when parents fail to teach their children the correct way of behaving toward adults. Once threats are made, the parents back down and the teenager feels powerful. Now, the teenager has control over the parent, causing the parent to feel weak and powerless. Moreover, teens lately have been mimicking the disrespectful and disobedient attitude their friends exhibit in school. This can mainly be seen between a student and a teacher, another adult, or just a simple student with student.
They may experience sadness and believe that they will never have a real or whole family again. To them, “normal life”, is a thing of the past and they are often unable to see any positive outcomes from the chaos in their life caused by their parents. If sadness of this nature is not addressed properly and is sustained for too long it can develop in to stress and/or depression. Anger can also occur if the child doesn’t fully understand or agree with the circumstances of a divorce, leading them to resentment often times causing them to act out. Being put under a lot of pressure to behave as if nothing is wrong is not fun and can cause children to avoid facing the problem by distracting themselves all in an effort to ignore the issue.
These effects can be long-lasting and extremely damaging. Divorce often results in many changes in children's living situations such as changing schools, child care, homes, etc. Children of divorced parents are more likely to use drugs and alcohol this is probably a misguided attempt to cope with the stress that often accompanies divorce and end up not having a good performance at school. There is an equivalents found between children of divorce and social skills. They have more difficulties trusting other people unconditionally and tend to have less social contacts.
Divorce affects each member of the family which children experience it differently. Parents should sit down with their children and discuss the situation, but not going into detail, that would give mixed feelings towards the parent that is in fault. Even though parents are getting a divorce, they still are the most important people in a child’s life. Children tend to feel lonely, depressed, and rejected because of the situation. Children’s emotions, feelings, and how they cope with depends on how the parents display their coping skills (Lewis, 1999).
In today’s society, divorce has become a norm in our lives. Married couples today are getting a divorce due to many different reasons, either because of conflicts in the marriage, lost of romantic feelings, a spouse committing an affair, and other type of marriage problems. Most of these divorced couples have children that are very young and due to their age, have no idea on how to deal with an event like a divorce. These children will have to learn to deal with their parent’s divorce at such a young age, affecting them in a positive or negative way. The effects of recent enlargement in divorce rates are negative effects.
Does Divorce Hurt Parents? Divorce rates have risen over the past few decades. Although it appears to be the best solution for a dysfunctional marriage, divorce is a highly painful and stressful event for both parents and children, who get hurt during this process. For a couple, a breakup represents a loss. Not only do parents lose their shared dreams and hopes for the future, but they also risk losing their children.
In a divorce situation most persons had a changed lifestyle and it can affect mainly young children and person now entering the adolescent stage. Divorce tends to intensify the child's dependence and it tends to accelerate the adolescent's independence; it often stimulates a more relapsing response in the child and a more violent response in the adolescent. For some persons, divorce shakes trust in dependency on parents who now behave in an extremely undependable way. They surgically divide the family unit into two different households between which the child must learn to transit back and forth, for a while creating unfamiliarity, instability, and insecurity, never being able to be with one parent without having to be apart from the other. As the functionalist state, the family is like an organism, containing different parts, each of which must work together for the well-being and equilibrium of the organism.
Abstract Divorce is painful and confusing for children. How a parent handles it determines a lot about how the child will be affected, both today and tomorrow. After a parents’ divorce children are the primary concern. These concerns have derived from research evidence that divorce has many costs to them. Research reveals that balanced against the benefits that might derive from the end of a parents’ conflicted marriage, children often pay the price of a significantly reduced standard of living, emotional pain, and the loss of important parenting relationships in the immediate aftermath of divorce.
How can we as victims, witnesses, or observers make a change to cyberbullying ? Many parents seem to question their child’s actions on a day-to-day basis. Signs of bullying are things we must observe. Students may come home with damaged or missing items, have difficulty sleeping, or just seemed depressed. The reports on cyberbullies, ruined reputations and dangers have caused so much fear against parents.