Luna Williams English 100 02/10/2014 Just Whom is This Divorce “Good” For? Divorce is a huge topic a lot of parents think about when they feel that there spouse is no longer compatible with them and also the fact that it’s not working out for reason only they will know. It may just be the fact that two people that were deeply in love just feel out of it because of no connection anymore. In the article “Just Whom Is This Divorce” Good” For? Written by Elizabeth Marquart talks about how divorce can cause children even from a good divorce go through it there selves when they get older, children also feel that they are to blame for their parents getting divorced and they lose all interest for other things, there is also a lot of controversy about which parent gets which day can just lead up to a huge custody battle for most.
Margaret E. Sangster has pointed out all the possible problems that are usually faced by the children of divorce parents. According to her children face problem generally during his or her school life and more likely to have legal problems. As everyone knows that, children or even adult when distress among themselves affects child’s mind or adult, so he or she see all those conflicts among their own parents ,so they are also merely looking for
In this case, child still can have good understanding of various situations and be able to grow with the right vision of the family. The situation is different and more complicated in the families that have gone through the challenges of divorce. Child, whose parents got divorced, goes through significant emotional shock and re-evaluation of the core values and moral principles. In the majority of cases, divorce causes a lot of negative emotions between parents that cannot be hidden from a child and, consequently, it goes deeply into the mind and mentality of a child. Negative aspects and attributes of divorce, such as discussions on the parental control, cruel scenes between parents and negligent attitude towards the child, as proven by the empirical research data, influence future behavioral patterns of this child and create dysfunctional attitude and relationships in his or her own family.
Children can attend Ala-Teen meeting or call a hotline for support. k. Children should educate themselves on their parent’s addiction. V. Conclusion: Parents need to step up and realize they are creating a roadmap of sadness and uncertainty for their children. In families where alcohol or other drugs are being abused, behavior can range from loving to withdrawn to crazy and can be frequently unpredictable and communication can often be unclear. Family life can be characterized as chaotic and uncertain.
Positive parenting, re-establishing trust, and being attuned to children’s emotions can play a big role in diminishing the harmful effects of this trauma. The parent-child relationship must be focused on in order to help a child come through this disturbance. The Impact of Domestic Violence on Preschoolers It is a sad fact that 30-43% of children in the United States have witnessed some form of physical violence between their parents. This violence can have a profound effect on preschoolers development cognitively and emotionally. Studies suggest that younger children may be more vulnerable to the effects of witnessing domestic violence than older children (Johnson and Lieberman, 2007) so it is very disturbing to recognize that young children are more likely to witness incidents of violence than older children (Ybarra, Wilkens, & Lieberman, 2007).
2.1 Describe with examples the kinds of young people’s development inclu influences that affect children andding: * Background * Health * Environment | Examples | Affect | BackgroundHealth Environment | Parents relationshipParents stylesReligion and cultureStep-familyPovertySiblingsIllness and diseaseNutritionProper RestHeredityStressSports and physical activity Noise OvercrowdingParents employmentFamily problems Neighbourhood | Parents that are going through a marriage breakdown, divorce and separation can be stressful for all involved particularly the children and young people. They could get very upset, could go very quiet, could stop eating and could even stop talking. Parents who think that education is not important have a negative input so they don’t encourage their children to get a good education. Parents with a lack of ability will not be able to help their children with their homework, this could be affect on their development.Children will be part of different ethnic background and cultures. Children’s belief may cause them emotional conflict when they want to participate in some physical activities which go against their family’s wishes or religious beliefs.
For example if a father leaves the mother unexpectedly and the mother cannot cope looking after the child on her own then the child will be optionally put in care or a care order put in place. Once a family have a breakdown this can put a lot of stress on individuals in the family including the children. The children may struggle with their situation and begin to show signs of behavioural problems, this will stress the single parent and then the child once again may be optionally or forced to be put into care. • Suspected abuse- if there are signs that the parents are abusing the child this can be from physical, emotional, social and intellectual abuse then this would be another reason for the child to have a care order put in
This is more harmful to the child’s wellbeing on many different levels. Children experience the same feelings associated with divorce that adults do, they feel a loss and grief for the parent that is no longer there on a daily basis. The attachment that they had to the parent prior to the divorce has been forever changed. Some research shows that the quality of relationship between parent and child deteriorates and that the effects last until adulthood (Bouchard & Doucet, 2011). More recently laws have begun to change due to the research that shows children benefit from having both parents involved in their parenting.
Help can be a step very difficult to give, but it is the first step to have a quieter family life. The Child abuse is surely among the most serious and complex problems sonorants modern society. The quality of life of many children is deeply damaged by the abuse they experience in the home environment, the consequences of which can seriously affect the physical and psychosocial development of the child. The emotional damage as a result of child abuse can also last for the rest of life, severely limiting the ability of adults to the personal and social adjustment. Child abuse is one of the most serious social problems and dramatic damage to our society.
For example, “The emotional responses of children who witness domestic violence may include fear, guilt, shame, sleep disturbances, sadness, depression, and anger (Domestic Violence Round Table, 2015).” It is evidently clear that children who come from abusive families may incur problems later in life as they establish and build personal and private relationships. For example, children that are exposed to their mother who is verbally, physically, or sexually abused may develop problematic relationships because of experienced aggression. This aggression may be taken out on peers, or even their own mother. When a child continuously is a witness in seeing their mother abused in any way, chances are they may display or express