Luna Williams English 100 02/10/2014 Just Whom is This Divorce “Good” For? Divorce is a huge topic a lot of parents think about when they feel that there spouse is no longer compatible with them and also the fact that it’s not working out for reason only they will know. It may just be the fact that two people that were deeply in love just feel out of it because of no connection anymore. In the article “Just Whom Is This Divorce” Good” For? Written by Elizabeth Marquart talks about how divorce can cause children even from a good divorce go through it there selves when they get older, children also feel that they are to blame for their parents getting divorced and they lose all interest for other things, there is also a lot of controversy about which parent gets which day can just lead up to a huge custody battle for most.
In families where alcohol or other drugs are being abused, behavior can range from loving to withdrawn to crazy and can be frequently unpredictable and communication can often be unclear. Family life can be characterized as chaotic and uncertain. Structure and rules may be either nonexistent or inconsistent. Children, who may not understand that their parent’s behavior and mood is determined by the amount of alcohol or other drugs in their bloodstream, can feel confused and insecure. They love their parents and worry about them, and yet feel angry and hurt that their parents do not love them enough to stop using.
They might also become angry about losing a loved one which could make them unsettled and have bad behaviour. This may occur as depending on age, the child may find it hard or lack the maturity and experience to express how their feeling. This could make them frustrated which could then manifest itself into angry behaviour. 2) New sibling – When a new child is born into a family, this can make the existing child or children feel left out and abandoned as the attention shifts to the new baby. This can cause feelings of jealousy as they fight for the attention of their parents.
Divorce – This could make the child or young person feel frustrated, confused because the child or young person may not be seeing one parent as much as before, this could also make the child act unusual such as becoming withdrawn and being argumentative with parents. New siblings – This could make the child or young person feel jealous because he/she may not be getting as
Failing a course is a major set back for some people. When students have the opportunity to retake a course most do not because they feel like it is a waste of time, or they just get lazy and do not want to do it at all. Also, failing a course can also be embarrassing to some people which leads them to give up and not worry about the course. Personal problems that occur within the household can also be a major factor on why teens drop out of high school. Some personal problems that can cause drop outs are pregnancies, marriage, and ect.
If a child experiences an event in his life such as a death or a serious illness, he will often find it very difficult to feel in control of his emotions. Many children will be profoundly affected by their parents separating or divorcing. The child will probably be very attached to both adults and will possibly be put under pressure to choose which parent, in their eyes, they love the most. A child in a situation of family break-up will often find trust very difficult to re-form. Occasionally, children will hear stories about “...what dad did...” or “...what mum said...” These situations could make the child appear to be distant or aloof from the outside and that they are indifferent to events.
Children of separated couples may also perform worse at school and have poorer future employment prospects. Some children are less likely to have successful relationships themselves as adults. However, it is not inevitable that all children will suffer long term harm from the break up of a parent’s relationship. Reference: One plus One strengthening relationships www.oneplusone.org.uk New Sibling: Very young children will find this the most difficult to cope with, vying for parental attention for the first time. Some children may ‘play up’ in response to the stress of the life change.
Children whose families have joined with another family and therefore have ‘step-family’ may experience unhappiness due to the child being picked on or feeling left out, this would lead to low self-esteem and they would quite possibly result in lack confidence in their own abilities. Poverty can affect all areas of a child’s development, physically, socially, emotionally and
What this culture of narcissism does is convince many people to stray or want to stray away from their families, especially children at a young age like teenagers. Not to mention the increasing number of abuse and suffer within families, it is not a surprise that people are starting develop more anger and resentments towards their and other families. This is the main reason as to why Pipher believes that people only desire to fulfill their own immediate needs; it is because of people’s mistrust and hatred towards families that prevents people from feeling respect and empathy. Eventually, when people cannot find happiness within themselves or within other people because they cannot figure out how to properly interact, people lose in touch with their humanity. Once people lose in touch with their humanity, they fail to recognize the feelings that make them humans; they prevent themselves from recognizing their inner humanity.
Insecurity can also mean fear of abandonment or fear of being replaced. Parents may also fear that questions or criticism will put their child at a disadvantage in school. However, in most cases, the provider is the secondary attachment for the child. Guilt is another emotion parents sometimes may feel because the parents are not there as much as they should be because of work or other obligations. Parents are often show frustration at not being there and being able to help their children in addition to not getting to see them as much as the teachers do.