Written by Elizabeth Marquart talks about how divorce can cause children even from a good divorce go through it there selves when they get older, children also feel that they are to blame for their parents getting divorced and they lose all interest for other things, there is also a lot of controversy about which parent gets which day can just lead up to a huge custody battle for most. Divorce isn’t the best thing when you are a child it can
The Affects of Divorce Among Black College Students Divorce is the legal and final dissolution of a marriage. There are a variety of reasons why people make the decision to divorce. Therapists mention problems with couples growing apart, feeling unloved and unappreciated, and troubles with finances as the top reasons for divorce. Divorce is something that affects most Americans directly or indirectly. Children are affected by the divorce more if the parents have custody hearings or move away from each other.
Overall, being taken out of a stressful household is an easier transition that being a yanked out of a peaceful one. The University of New Hampshire(extension.unh.edu.family/documents.divorce.pdf) found that age and gender play a large role in how each child reacts to having divorced parents. When an infant's parents get divorced it doesn't understand what is going on but feels the low energy level of its parents. The baby will most likely lose its appetite and spit up more. Preschool children often believe that they caused the divorce.
Just like children abused by their parents that in fact grow up to be abusive themselves. Kass says that children of divorce “have had no successful models to imitate” (229) and in fact “enter into relationships guardedly and tentatively” (230). Children of divorce enter a relationship looking for red flags up front and when things get difficult they never had anything in which to compare their situation. “When the going gets tough, the tough gets going;”…LITERALLY! Divorce is tragic on many levels and all too often the impact on children is more then just the shock of their parents living in two different places.
Other than that of course there are different stages of mixed up feelings either anger, conflicts adapting to the new life, sadness and grief. Some people after going through the process of divorce move out of the house so children start to go to new schools, have new friends or go to different neighbor hoods which is something that increases their feeling of anger because they feel that their life had totally changed and they should adapt to so many new dwells so that makes the subject harder. Of course divorce isn’t only about parents fighting all the time or parents that can’t take it any longer or so on. There are
1:2 Describe with examples how different aspects of development can affect one another. Example 1: Separation/Divorce When a couple is getting divorce or separated with young children this can affect their behaviour patterns for example by getting into trouble with police or in school which will give them the attention they need while they may not be getting as much with the parents concentrating on their situation. This can cause various things in the child such as not eating due to the stress and anxiety caused by what will happen to their family home due to moving to new school or just being in a single parent family which can be a big change. It can be much more of a factor for a young person when it becomes general knowledge in their friendship circle. Other disadvantages from this situation can be that sometimes a single parent can’t afford expensive holidays which would make the child feel left out when they are talking about events when after coming back from their holidays and are asked to write or tell about what happened during the school holidays.
However, with the new act and its simplicity people are no longer trying to fix their marriages and are just getting divorced which leads to the breakdowns of many family units. For example, the divorce rate increased by 5% between 2009 and 2010. This can have terrible effects upon the family in particular any children the couple may share because a parents’ divorce can be an upsetting time and some children find it very difficult to handle. It can also affect the family because not all divorces are civil and it can leave the couple having bad relations and in custody battles the children can be deeply affected because in some cases only one parent has custody and they don’t allow the children to see the other parent therefore depriving them of a treasured bond within their life. The child benefit act also affects the institution of family.
For example if a father leaves the mother unexpectedly and the mother cannot cope looking after the child on her own then the child will be optionally put in care or a care order put in place. Once a family have a breakdown this can put a lot of stress on individuals in the family including the children. The children may struggle with their situation and begin to show signs of behavioural problems, this will stress the single parent and then the child once again may be optionally or forced to be put into care. • Suspected abuse- if there are signs that the parents are abusing the child this can be from physical, emotional, social and intellectual abuse then this would be another reason for the child to have a care order put in
Perhaps most of the time the only solution to living happily is by getting divorce. There is not a specific reason of why people choose to divorce, but base on Psychologist studies there is a many reasons of why people choose to separate their life after sharing it together for many years. Some of the reasons of why people get divorce are: • Lack of Communication • Domestic Violence • Alcohol and Substance Abuse The breakdown of a family can have many repercussions on the individual members with the least involvement. The children involved in a divorce are often the most impacted victims of a divorce. Children with divorced parents are often left feeling neglected by the parent that has chosen to move out, unloved, and often times burdened with feelings of guilt.
In this case, child still can have good understanding of various situations and be able to grow with the right vision of the family. The situation is different and more complicated in the families that have gone through the challenges of divorce. Child, whose parents got divorced, goes through significant emotional shock and re-evaluation of the core values and moral principles. In the majority of cases, divorce causes a lot of negative emotions between parents that cannot be hidden from a child and, consequently, it goes deeply into the mind and mentality of a child. Negative aspects and attributes of divorce, such as discussions on the parental control, cruel scenes between parents and negligent attitude towards the child, as proven by the empirical research data, influence future behavioral patterns of this child and create dysfunctional attitude and relationships in his or her own family.