Let me be clear: parents have to be careful, because once that kind of behavior gets entrenched, it's very difficult to stop. By being rude, kids protect themselves-and they train adults what not to ask of them and what not to expect of them. The answer here is that you and your partner have to decide ahead of time how the kids in the family will talk to each parent. You set the expectations together, and then you remain consistent; you hold each child accountable. Here's an example.
Parents with the authoritarian parenting style can be summarized in one phrase, “Children should be seen and not heard,” as stated by Joseph Lao, Ph.D., in his article Parenting Styles. One study found that about eighteen percent of American’s have parents with the authoritarian parenting style (“Parenting Styles – Authoritarian, Permissive, or Authoritative,” para. 9). The Authoritarian parenting style is more common among ethnic minority families than among while white families (Kopko, 2007). These authoritarian parents believe that it is their responsibility to provide for and take care of their children and know what is in their best interest and their children should have no say in how they should be taken care of and/or raised.
Love throughout the household A single parent home has some obvious disadvantages that could have a negative impact on anyone that is a member of that household. Children in the household should grow up with both a mother and a father. When kids grow up with single parents they tend to spend more time alone, which could allow them to engage in irresponsible behavior. A single parent will not be as involved in the children’s life as much because of work, or other responsibilities. A married couple could divide those responsibilities and schedule their work hours so that the kids hardly spend time alone.
At the same time generation Y is also commonly worried about what individuals think about them and not about issues that their parents would worry about such as future planning. With technology being so hard to keep up with, material goods and entertainment become one of the struggles every teenager has when trying to fit in. This is when “technosis” becomes common within gen Y. They become over obsessed with being able to fit in that they forget their priorities and focus too much on what technology can bring them. When trying to compare the baby boomers to their children (Echo Boomers) we found that their values were very different from each other.
Failure to follow the rules usually results in punishment. The parent is highly demanding and directive but are not responsive to the child not encourage give and take. (Gurian, Wagner) Authoritative or moderate parenting style is described by parents that set limits and rely on natural consequences for the child to learn from making mistakes. The authoritative parent establishes rules and guidelines that the child is expected to follow but are responsive to their child. This is a more democratic approach in the use of supportive rather than punitive disciplinary methods.
Kids are highly influential especially at a young age. A child who sees a father abusing his mother might grow up and find it acceptable to beat on his own wife and kids, alas the cycle continues. Society also play a very big part in this, we now see and accept divorce and broken families as a new normal. Since many fathers generally are not the major caretakers of their kids after a divorce, bad feeling are formed with the kids. These negative feelings are due to dads not regularly seeing and interacting with their kids.
Divorce affects each member of the family which children experience it differently. Parents should sit down with their children and discuss the situation, but not going into detail, that would give mixed feelings towards the parent that is in fault. Even though parents are getting a divorce, they still are the most important people in a child’s life. Children tend to feel lonely, depressed, and rejected because of the situation. Children’s emotions, feelings, and how they cope with depends on how the parents display their coping skills (Lewis, 1999).
Many EMG children also do not have that initial push of how important education is for them. They may have a fatalistic view on where they see themselves fitting into to society which may rub on to their children. Sugarman did a lot of research on this and found it as being one of the top reasons why children can fail in education. Children who believe their future is already predetermined will not put as much focus on education as they think they will only get working-class jobs. As parents may be new to the UK or not speak English they may not understand the educational system and the application process.
With high teen pregnancy rates, the lack of social exposure with homeschooling appeals to concerned parents. With a more controlled environment, and parents able to monitor their children’s activities it brings a sense of security. School administration as well as teachers disagree and argue that children who are homeschooled are not getting proper social exposure or education. Teachers feel that some parents lack the proper credentials to educate their children. Since there are no education requirements for those who choose to homeschool their children, this is a legitimate concern.
In result, lack of discipline from parents along with mimicking their friends’ attitudes toward one another exemplifies few factors that influences teen rudeness. Nowadays, a modern family would focus on their careers more than focusing on their family. As kids age 13 to 19 move from childhood to maturity, they often experiment with language to express their boundaries and talk back to parents in ways that are inappropriate. It then becomes the parents’ duty to instruct their children how to speak with respect to authorities. The problem arises when parents fail to teach their children the correct way of behaving toward adults.