“We and them” are words that people use in everyday life and they have no clue that they are so insidious. So I am now going to elucidate my reasons for feeling the way that I feel about these two words. The words “we and them” can separate people from others without them even knowing it. And they can also put people into their own categories. An example of how these words separate people from others is, at times, racism.
Altruism is selfless. Where a codependent has trouble setting healthy boundaries and saying “no” especially for the well-being of the other person, an act of altruism is done in spite of the return. One such example involves a parent disciplining their child and their comment might be “Even if you say you hate me, I don’t care. This is going to be more beneficial for you and that is most important to me.” Whereas a codependent person might not say no, because she or he is more concerned with the child saying she hates him or her and stop loving the individual. In this scenario the concern of the codependent is selfishly
Nowadays, our society raises us to believe that obedience is good and disobedience is bad. We are taught that we should do all what we’re told and that disobedient people are mostly accused of being bad people. Society tells us this, but it is not true. Disobedience is sometimes a necessary transitional phase and it’s not always harmful as people claim. Could disobedience be the step to a prosperous future or to the end of human civilization?
Ignorance is Destruction Ken Liew By the subjective nature of perception, human beings are left to face conflict and sadly experience the inevitable by-product known as suffering. Perhaps it is through such suffering that defines the world we live in, a world which places high expectations on individuals and ridicules those who fail to meet them. It is important as individuals to acknowledge we are unable to fully dictate our own circumstances. However, there are many people that fail to cope with their insecurities and trick themselves into believing an alternate reality exists in order to bring happiness, avoid ridicule and ultimately maintain a sense of security in the world they live in. It is through self-ignorance and the notion that one’s happiness can be attained through living in the fantasy world that coerces most into avoiding the truth.
* Are people better off if they do not listen to criticism? Criticism often comes in two forms: destructive and constructive. Destructive criticism is where an individual despises a certain person and the actions of that person, the individual criticizes in a demeaning and condescending way. People who care give constructive criticism; criticism that allows the person to grow as a better individual. People must listen to criticism first before deciding to use it in their life.
Defeat itself is a disappointment that provides a sense of revenge, and whether you are prepared to continue to fight to succeed or just give up will determine if it’ll truly does make you stronger. People need to accept their defeat and learn from it so the same mistake will not be repeated in the future. When we are defeated we can see the mistakes we made along the way and try and fix them the next time. You can blame other people for your defeat, but defeat will only make you stronger if you approach defeat with an attitude that won’t back down, and strive to learn from your mistakes so you will be better prepared for next time. It is the same way as if you failed a test and you retake it, you’ll get a better score because you learnt from what you did wrong.
The not so great this about this is that even if your intentions are good you tend to forget that not everyone thinks like you and is clear on their own sense of values. Believing that you are doing the right thing justifies on what other people’s opinions are. My strengths and weaknesses are that I can not help but to feel damaged whenever I see something going on around me that I can not naturally fix myself. However, a strength is that I look at it as a challenge and make my best effort to over come that challenge and help others even if others do not agree with my process in doing
Although one may not want to be underrated, for me it is still better than to be overrated. Being overrated, people are bound to disappoint people when they do not meet the expected demands. Not only that, when people are overrated, they might also feel complacent with their work, false-believing that they are satisfied with what they do and when they fail, they have to cope with such disappointment in themselves and also others. Contrastingly, being underrated channels the idea that people will be surprised in a good way. When one is underrated, he can strive to become better, to prove others wrong and reveal his full potential, and should it fail, there is nothing to lose.
I believe that the main reason for this erroneous behavior is to “save face”. In layman’s language it may refer to the act of avoiding the angry thrashing of parents due to bad results and in the process averting embarrassment of being labeled an academic flop. However, this is not the only reason why they cheat. Historically, this type of behavior has been traditionally studied by sociologists as either being abnormal or unusual behavior. Theories of aberrant or unusual behavior have been time and again used as possible explanations as to why they cheat (Lathrop & Foss, 2000).
Although, whenever an unusual cultural practice is encountered the first reaction is disbelief and rejection. Negative reactions like this mean we can not effectively understand what we are experiencing. Philosopher John Cook observed that cultural relativism "Is aimed at getting people to admit that although it may seem to them that their moral principles are self-evidently true, and hence seem to be grounds for passing judgement on other people, in fact, the self-evidence of these principles is a kind of illusion". Once it is realised