Which is something that I can understand, because children don’t really comprehend the importance of respect or manners, its something that has to be taught to them. Not only that, but patience is very crucial when working with children, because there will
Time-outs can be effective, particularly with small children, when they are applied appropriately. However, if time-outs are misused, then they might lead to feelings of abandonment and unworthiness, blind obedience, and a lack of self-control. Moreover, according to the class notes, children are curious and have a drive to learn, and learning is intrinsically rewarding for them. In order to facilitate this learning and avoid punishment, we should try to create conditions that impede unwanted behaviors. It is important to note that if children feel that they are being manipulated or controlled by the rewards, their behavior will likely not change effectively.
1.1) In my setting, establishing a respectable, professional relationship with the children is very important, as it will give you the attention and respect you require, when you require it. There are important skills you need to be able to build this relationship. Patience is a key skill needed when working with children. Some children can work at slower levels than other children, which may lead them to become frustrated with themselves or the situation. If the child is attempting to explain their work to you, then you must take your time in listening to them because if you begin to interrupt, then this may cause the child to become aggravated and frustrated.
Effective communication is vital when developing positive relationships with children young people and adults. Some people really struggle with their learning or they may have confidence issues, these issues may stop them from communicating freely. Treating them in a calm, friendly, positive, and praising manner could mean the difference between them trusting me and closing down completely and giving up. It is important to have a positive relationship with children and young adults because if they feel comfortable and secure with the adult and their setting whether it is a childminder, a nursery or a school they will separate more easily from their parent or carer. If they feel emotionally secure they are more likely to participate in the play and learning activities.
This in turn raises self-esteem. Comforting and reassuring children in times of stress or anxiety is an important part of a classroom assistants role. Reassuring children with low levels of confidence in their academic work and supporting them raises self-esteem. Children feed off praise, it motivates them. Empathising with children is appreciating how they might be feeling and responding in an appropriate manner.
By doing this you are giving the children the chance to gain confidence in resolving conflicts, an adult may not always be present when they are confronted with conflict. Conflict could occur outside the school or the home and by allowing children to resolve conflicts with each other whilst under supervision it equips them with the skills to do so in other situations. As a staff member we can inform children of how a conflict should be resolved and stress that it can always be done without the need for verbal or physical violence. This shows the children that verbal abuse or physical violence is not an acceptable way to resolve conflict nor an acceptable way to act in any instance. Therefore equipping them with the skills they need to manage on the outside world, skills that they will hopefully take on to later
Some students who lack in confidence may find it hard to communicate at all with us, so if we come across to that student in a positive and gentle manner they are more likely to open up to us and talk. We would not like to be spoken to in a negative way so therefore we should also be careful of how we speak to others too. It is important to communicate effectively in order that information is understood and to avoid confusion or delay. It is important to adapt the way we communicate, because different audiences require different communication styles, that way you have a better chance of being understood e.g in the way you would communicate with a child as to an adult. Communication is a two way process, it involves speaking, listening, hearing, understanding and replying.
If we go and show bad attitude and show that we are negative to certain people around them. Then we could make children to be the same way, which is not a good example to them as young children don’t know the differences between right and wrong. As a teaching assistant it is my duty and responsibility to respect the children with there needs and accept them for who they are. The way I can do this is if I think about my own beliefs and opinions so I can learn not to judge others on the basis of their race, gender or religion etc. In my line
For example, you might say "Well done, that was hard, and you managed it". * Reassure them that it's OK to make mistakes and that it's all part of growing up. Avoid being too critical - this directly damages confidence. * Acknowledge their feelings - and help them express their feelings in words. For example, encourage them to say, "I'm upset because..." or "I feel happy when...” * Focus on strengths, not weaknesses highlight the things they are good at * Respect the child's interest’s comment to show you're listening.
The tone of your voice is another factor towards building a relationship with children and young people. A calm, low voice makes you appear to the child as comforting and approachable. You must be patient and give children time to speak and recast if necessary, recasting is the correct way of saying a word a child says wrong, it is better for the child because they don’t see it as getting it wrong or being told off, rather just a reassurance that with practice and support from you they will get it right. Another way to help build