The short story called, "The Most Powerful Question a Parent Can Ask..." by 'Neil Millar' shows the most respectful approach of parents to their children rather than "Be-ers and Doers" by 'Budge Wilson' in many ways. I feel that the story by "Neil Millar" is told in a calmer manner of speaking rather than the one written by "Budge Wilson". Everyone grows up differently but the effects grow depending on the matter of time when you are taught to become responsible. Every parent teaches their child different aspects at different times. Some are earlier than others and some must be later.
They often act more as a friend to the child than a parent. Children that are raised using the permissive style of parenting are often considered spoiled and unruly. They may tend to have drug problems and behavior problems in adolescence due to the fact that they have never had to control their behavior because they always seem to “get their
These children, however, have poor social skills, and show signs of low self-esteem, while having high levels of depression (Partner, 2009). Authoritative Parents Authoritative, Demanding and Responsive parents (Partner, 2009) also set limits but understand where their children are coming from. They monitor their children but not in a controlling way. They support their children with rewards for good behavior as opposed to punishment for bad behavior. They see their children in a positive light and want the best for them individually,
Haila Jones To Spank or not to Spank As parents we use discipline to teach our children the difference between the right thing and the wrong thing to do. It is the parent’s choice what type they would like to use. There are several, different types of parental styles starting with: authoritarian , overly permissive , authoritative, and spanking (corporal punishment). There are different parenting styles depending on your culture as well. I believe that there is no right or wrong way to discipline a child, but there is a right and wrong way to behave.
It’s beneficial as there are male and female role models available for the children, and it gives the parents more control of how their children are brought up. Another strength is that there’s less interference from wider family members however this can also be seen as a negative aspect, as other people are unaware of what’s happening and if there was any problems within the family and therefore it’s difficult to identify neglect. This also makes it difficult to seek professional help outside of the family. Another disadvantage of this privatised nuclear family is that children are only exposed to one set of values and so are influenced to become like their parents in the future as they have no exposure to other behaviours of different families. A criticism of this
An Effective Parenting Styles Being a parent can be one of the most difficult jobs a person will ever have. It may be especially challenging when the child is in their adolescent years. Most parents want their children to become independent, productive and able to cope with the world. The older methods of parenting do not work in today's society. Teenagers, like everyone else, want to be treated with respect and seen as individuals with there own ideas.
Like the mother, permissive parents often tend to rarely enforce rules or discipline their children. The Permissive Parenting Style is an extremely relaxed approach where parents are generally warm, nurturing and affectionate. However, they are overly accepting of their children's behaviour, good or bad (Positive Parenting Centre). Children often get to make their own decisions and don’t have to live up to any expectations. Parents with this style take on the role of "friends” rather than parents.
These parents often resort to gift giving and even outright bribery, rather than setting boundaries and expecting obedience. The parent wants to be more of a friend than a parent. According to Dr. Phil McGraw (2009), children need boundaries and rules to learn right from wrong. “It is your job to be a parent not a friend to your child.”
Permissive parents have children who, in many ways, share the undesirable characteristics of children of authoritarian parents. Children with permissive parents tend to be dependent and moody, and they are low in social skills and self-control (Feldman, 2014). Healthy Family System A healthy family system can be noticed by its living arrangement. The way a family live such as the size of the family can determine a good healthy family system Real life experiences and upon observation of my own, parents with one or two kids are able to give more attention to their children than parents with several children. Children who grow up in a household with just one or two children tend to thrive more in society and not be withdrawn oppose to children who grow up in a household with several children tend to have a lack of attention.
The children are the ones that will carry on our society and it is our jobs to teach them morals and values. The most important factor in children’s lives is domestic trends. Children are very impressionable and look to adults for guidance and role models. There are now many types of family units including: single parents, divorced parents, married couples, homosexual couples and other relatives acting as parents. Studies done by Sara McLanahan and Gary D. Sandefur, they had found that children raised by single parents were worse off in life than children that were raised by both parents regardless of race, educational background or if the parent was remarried.