Tan acknowledges her mother’s broken English to be full of grammatical errors, yet it is unique and natural. Because Tan grew up with her mother’s broken English, she was ashamed and didn’t feel like she fit in. It limited her perception of her mother and how she expressed herself. Her thoughts weren’t clear and people never took her seriously whenever she went out in public. Some people would ignore her and not even acknowledge she was there.
When she notices her mother in the room, a mother who speaks broken English, and with whom Tan realizes that she speaks broken English to, feels as though her elaborate speech is wrong, that it doesn’t fit well. When her tale transitions to the hardships her mother has gone through for her inability to speak ‘intelligent’ English, the main point of the essay is first made known. How do the different dialects and ‘Englishes’ used affect the way others perceive you and does their use gives and takes away intimacy and emotion. To come to this point, Tan relates to stories from her childhood, of a mother using her child to speak for her so that she isn’t judged, of a mother who is looked down upon despite her intelligence, just because she cannot speak English well. She goes on to say that her mother’s poor grip of English affects her too, limiting her skills in English classes, all the while teachers prompt her to transition her focus to maths and sciences.
In return she has to do Charlese homework and Charlese’s sister Juju has to give Maleeka some cloths to wear so she doesn’t have to wear her mothers clothing. However throughout the book Maleeka starts to grow resentful to Charlese abusive behavior towards her and the other students. Miss Saunders, a new
Mrs. Garvin taught English to the honor students, and she treated them very different than her mainstream students. Finally, Mrs. Garvin was so mean and impatient with her class. She would teach the matter and scream if someone stopped her to ask a question. She lacked patience and consideration for her students. I always thought a good teacher was one who wanted their students to progress.
Maggie was very uneasy around her sister; her mother tells her anxiousness in regard to Dee’s visitation: “Maggie will be nervous until after her sister goes: she will stand hopelessly in corners, homely and ashamed of the burn scars down her arms and legs, eyeing her sister with a mixture of envy and awe” (119). Dee undermines her sister, not always knowing what type of impact she impresses upon Maggie. Dee does not appreciate her sister or her mother, both of which is barely educated and lives in a poor, dilapidated home. In fact, Dee had her own way of making this noticeable in one instance when she stood off in the distance while their first home burned down with her mother and sister inside (121). She does not feel comfortable taking on the old fashioned lifestyle her mother and sister do.
Authoritarian parents are adult-centered, demanding and rejecting child’s needs based on authority and power. This is the reason why Sammy has a low learning ability, the motivation, beliefs and attitude towards learning. Sammy claimed that she did not remember when they talk peacefully, this is not only because the parental control over her was high, but also her parents spent litter time to talk with her as they were busy to work. There are the main reasons leads to poor family relationship. Also, Sammy’s parents keep nagged and complained but did not concern about why she had unsatisfactory results on academic aspect.
When they suffer from a lack of attention it leads to loneliness and depression. In addition to feeling lonely and depressed, they feel like a complete outsider, they feel different; they feel like they are a “wrong” person. “Nobody even stops to think of my side of it.” “Why do I have to be the one with braces” (Audre, 24-30). In today’s day and age many adolescents are suffering from being different or feeling “wrong”. “Mommy, daddy, I just want to let you know I’m gay.” Some parents who have gay kids try and prevent them from being gay hoping to
The approach to education is a kind of ‘one size fits all’ method in which the child is expected to be passive. Scout has already been taught to read by her father and the teacher, Miss Caroline is upset about that, thinking it extremely inappropriate. The teacher introduces her new method, ‘The Dewey Decimal system’ without really considering whether it will work for these children in this particular school. She is very confident that she knows best- certainly better than the parents and children. She punishes Scout for not conforming to her idea of what a little girl should be like on her first day at school.
When these traits did not surface, Jing-Mei began to realize she did not have these traits and started to feel internally inferior. She slowly started to resent her mother’s continual control over her decisions and went in a different direction than her mother wanted her too. In Amy Tan’s short story, “Two Kinds”, the dialogue Tan includes within Jing-Mei’s flashback demonstrates that conflict and resentment can occur when not allowing your child to take his/her own path. In the beginning of the flashback, Jing-Mei’s mother is shown to be trying to control and dominate her daughter’s life. When she moved away from China, Jing-Mei’s mother had a vision that in America, you could be anything that you wanted to be.
She had no confidence in her mother growing up, and saw her as a “limit” and an “embarrassment”. Later in Tan’s life, she found several surveys which led her to realize that she was not alone; there were other Asian-Americans who may have shared the same struggles as her. Tan creates a symbolic diction through the use of words like “broken”, “limited”, and “fractured”. She is very repetitive with her use of these words, although she explains how she hated when people described her mother’s english that way. Although Tan knows that the way her and her mother converse is not grammatically correct, she has grown to love it.