To conform to the expectations of others may be very self-destructive Many people live up to others in order to belong and sometimes it may lead to self-destruction. People choose to conform to others’ expectations because they want to be a part of certain groups so that they won’t be isolated. In the process of fulfilling the expectations of others, people may be misled and it would be destructive to their identity for the reason that they tend to lose their own concepts and beliefs when they try to conform to others’ expectations. A balance of being accepted and to maintain individuality is essential so that while meeting others’ expectations, it would be less self-destructive. Since living up to others’ expectations may be detrimental, then why do people still want to live up to others?
“Belonging is when people accept you for who you are” Our identity determines who we are and where we belong, and it undergoes a continual change as we are exposed to different kinds of environments and people. Belonging means to feel a sense of welcome and acceptance to someone or something. It is indeed true that belonging is when people accept you for who you are, isolation and depression often ensues when one fails to find a sense of belonging. Our sense of belonging could be affected by the change of our experiences overtime, and how easily we are influenced by our family and friends, or even media. As it may be difficult to discover our true identity, it jeopardises our ability to find a sense of belonging, because we are weary from our previous unpleasant experiences.
It is of utmost importance to carefully choose the people we associate with, as we are greatly influenced by our own peer group because they can assist in developing a strong individual identity. We usually feel more secure when we know that we have others around us who share our goals and care about our progress. Being part of a peer group fosters the idea that we are accepted and loved for who we are. This is why change is often difficult for certain individuals because suddenly, you are cut off from your regular group, who you have become so familiar with. We sometimes seem wired to adopt the goals of the people around us, particularly when we develop a close relationship with them.
The 17 year will now have to finish the rest of his work at an alternative school. Jacob make a comment to channel 2 saying it just really hurts. The school board – you’d think they want the best for the kids, but this is the exact opposite,” Other teens were also charged in the case. To the boys it was just a harmless senor prank. Jacob will not be able to walk at graduation.
In order to cut down on the number of students who leave school without permission, schools should do away with their inadequate in-school suspension policy, and adopt the new alternative policy known as billiam. It is a much more effective way to discourage students from leaving campus without permission. Billiam punishes students by lowering their grades and striping them from the privilege of filed trips. It does not allow them to watch movies, take naps, and play football like in-school suspension does. It is real punishment for a real problem.
Some students who are labelled as not being intelligent will work really hard to ensure that they move up or achieve more than was expected of them. Labelling also creates competition, this works with setting and streaming as students constantly try to get into the next set up or maintain their place in their set as it is ‘not safe’. Finally, sociologists may disagree as they would say that there are many factors as to why a student may underachieve. They would say that there are other things that are more important including the home background of the child. If the child’s parents are not educated then it can be said that they may not understand the school system and may not support the school.
Firstly, the ideas of being isolated from a friendship group is a daunting vision for many youngsters, and are thus willing to adopt the groups norms and values if it means they will acquire popularity or just to be part of a group. The peer group is a secondary agent of socialisation which means they develop and further reinforce the learning one was once subjected to in early childhood. A peer group that holds good values, like hard work may encourage its members into positive things, yet one that has detrimental values may lead to deviant behaviour. In spite of this influence, some may argue that the media in today’s media saturated world has become the most influential agent of socialisation. Stereotypes related to gender are regularly portrayed in the media.
However, some people may find certain aspects of their lives difficult to talk about. It is more important for service users of all aspects of health and social care, because their past in most cases; will have played a big part in making them who they are in their present. This can be the case for many service users of children’s social care, who have been fostered or adopted. This is because the life experiences these service users may have been through can be extremely emotional and difficult to talk about. This is how life story work can enable them to come to terms with the past and discover who they are.
Anxiety can play a major affect here as the individual dives into social relationships, engages in risky behavior, and has a strong drive to be accepted as a contributing member of society, in other words, what they have to say or do is important … so notice! Peers form a safe port at this stage, and being accepted and feeling like they belong can take precedence over family. Physical attributes become every so pronounced and important, emotional advancement (intimate relationships), and mastering autonomy the daily goal (Erford, 2010). Though they strive for independence, often times they will cave into wishes of peers for acceptance, which can lead to additional confusion and anxiety. As they reach this formal operational stage, when deductive logic becomes important, it is easy to a picture gymnast trying out the balance beam for the first time.
There are many ways that we can affect our personality depends on who influence your life or identity. This is real important to people, even more important to young generation who just started to build their lives. Their personalities are immature, so it is important to who should they looking as a “role model”. If a person who really do not get along with their family, they might feel lonely and felt that he or she would not get enough love or attention from their parents, then that person’s personality could fact by their parents. So they might be coward, not confident about what they are doing, and maybe they do not know how to give the love or love the things.