To Conform to the Expectations of Others May Be Very Self-Destructive

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To conform to the expectations of others may be very self-destructive Many people live up to others in order to belong and sometimes it may lead to self-destruction. People choose to conform to others’ expectations because they want to be a part of certain groups so that they won’t be isolated. In the process of fulfilling the expectations of others, people may be misled and it would be destructive to their identity for the reason that they tend to lose their own concepts and beliefs when they try to conform to others’ expectations. A balance of being accepted and to maintain individuality is essential so that while meeting others’ expectations, it would be less self-destructive. Since living up to others’ expectations may be detrimental, then why do people still want to live up to others? In ‘The Member of the Wedding’, Frankie is desperate to belong because she fears the sense of loneliness and isolation. She does not fit into any group and she is being left out hence she tries to change herself to live up to others’ expectations of a ‘girl’, for example her name and scraping off the dried mud on her feet, which represents her desperateness of also getting rid of her identity as being a girl from a rural place called Alabama. Ever since the Evolution, any living things live and travel in groups for the purpose of survival and care for each other. Being belonged to a group also helps us in gaining support from others, developing social skills and building our identity. In contrary, if we do not belong to a group, we may face disadvantages of being isolated and bullied, because being a ‘loner’ will have possibilities of being ‘picked’ by others. People are afraid of all the consequences of being lonely so despite it being detrimental, some choose to accept and abide others’ beliefs. By matching somebody else’s expectation of us, we may be very

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