Without Connection to Others There Is No Me.

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We all strive to be individual and unique. We all want to connect to someone or something. And ultimately we all want to belong and fit in somewhere in this world. A sense of belonging can emerge from the connections made with the people and groups we associate with. “Nothing of me is original. I am the combined effort of everyone I've ever known.” ― Chuck Palahniuk. A person will often feel apprehensive when they are not involved and connected to a certain group but this is when we need to understand and learn to be autonomous and not be necessarily dependent on others. This is when we might find ourselves disconnecting with those surrounding us in order to revaluate ourselves. It is of utmost importance to carefully choose the people we associate with, as we are greatly influenced by our own peer group because they can assist in developing a strong individual identity. We usually feel more secure when we know that we have others around us who share our goals and care about our progress. Being part of a peer group fosters the idea that we are accepted and loved for who we are. This is why change is often difficult for certain individuals because suddenly, you are cut off from your regular group, who you have become so familiar with. We sometimes seem wired to adopt the goals of the people around us, particularly when we develop a close relationship with them. Of course, that can be a positive or negative thing depending on what the people around us are doing. For that reason, we have to be careful to surround ourselves with other people who are engaging in behaviours that we would like to see in ourselves. If one is unable to feel adequate enough within a group or is not fully comfortable with themselves, there is a chance one may conform in order to fit in. ‘The more insecure people feel, the more conformist they become.’- John Elder. More than often people
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