Effective communication is vital when developing positive relationships with children young people and adults. Some people really struggle with their learning or they may have confidence issues, these issues may stop them from communicating freely. Treating them in a calm, friendly, positive, and praising manner could mean the difference between them trusting me and closing down completely and giving up. It is important to have a positive relationship with children and young adults because if they feel comfortable and secure with the adult and their setting whether it is a childminder, a nursery or a school they will separate more easily from their parent or carer. If they feel emotionally secure they are more likely to participate in the play and learning activities.
Bowlby proposed that an internal working model (IWM) developed in childhood will determine or affect later adult relationships and how successful they are. Ainsworth’s strange situation helped develop three main types of attachment: secure, resistant and avoidant. Secure children develop a positive model of themselves and relationships as their primary caregiver was sensitive, emotionally responsive and supportive. Resistant children have parents who were inconsistent in their care giving, resulting in the child having a negative image of themself - often seeking attention but not finding comfort when they receive it. Avoidant children often have rejecting parents, which leads to them developing an internal model which makes them think they are unacceptable and unworthy.
‘It’s Not Discipline, It’s a Teachable Moment’ states that many parents and educators use various forms of punishment to discipline. However, in doing so, they tend to inadvertently reinforce inappropriate behaviors. While time-outs can be effective in helping young children control their emotions, many adults misuse the technique, by making it too long or scolding the child during the time-out. As the article points out, parents will often drop whatever they are doing in order to discipline their child in cases where they are acting up, which is exactly what the child wants, thus rewarding them. Moreover, it is much more effective to reward children for their desirable behavior.
It can prevent children taking more drastic action like self-harming or suicide and can send a message to the bullies that what they’re doing is not working. If children are resilient they will be able to cope better with problems, they will have better health and they will be happier and more fulfilled. They will also be less likely to develop emotional problems like depression or anxiety. To get children to become resilient - to rely on themselves, they've got to believe that they are capable of doing this - how can adults help them? We as the adults have got to take children seriously, listen to them, make them feel that they are important, encourage children to try things out for themselves (you start with young children, by being close by, so they know there is an adult there if they need them - this often gives them more confidence to try things).
For some reason the adult child feels as though they have the same rights to the household as their parents do. With this sad reality, comes the enabling parent who has become overly dependent on their young adult emotionally, thus stifling the independence of their child. This is what happens in a co-dependent household. The codependent parent fails to realize that it is the responsibility of the parents to teach their children to teach independence and responsibility. Enabling your adult children will only cripple them.
Give positive encouragement, always using positive words rather than negative. This will in turn make them feel confident, valued and encourages good self esteem from an early age. Identify two ways that an adult's behaviour at work could negatively influence the development of children. 1) If you are feeling down and unwell, children and young people that you are working with are able to pick up on this and it could cause them to become unhappy and perhaps uncomfortable. This may then result in them not wanting to join in in activities or even find it as an excuse to play up.
2.2 Any form of prejudice and discrimination can have a severe negative effect throughout a person’s life. Being undervalued by peers can make a person feel isolated and lonely. A child’s confidence and self esteem will become less and less the more they are discriminated against. They will start not wanting to be involved in activities, stop putting their hand up to ask questions. This in turn will affect their learning and ability to interact.
According to Coles, parents have difficulty explaining ethics to their children because they don't want to shatter their kids innocence. They tend to keep them in a bubble so their kids don't grow up with bad experiences, yet they tell them what to believe in. “In many homes parents establish moral assumption, mandates, priorities. They teach children what to believe in, what not to believe in. They teach children what is permissible or not permissible” (61).
This is so that these barriers do not put a strain on the partnership and relationship parents and practitioners have. Barriers can lead to the parents becoming more emotional such as anger or show distress about it. Leading onto more prejudice attitudes and having different expectations on rules. It can all spiral out of control if not stopped, which not the help the child would reach their full potential as the child is the main focus, as their wellbeing is one of the most crucial part (paramount) while in the setting. Barriers come in many forms, such as when key persons are doing observations and planning.
Society thrives on the philosophy of allowing children to do what they want when they want. When in reality these students are often are acting up or failing grades to get attention from parents and mentors. Neo-Scholasticism allows students to become internally motivated. Students who have internal as well as external motivation to finish school will be less likely to drop out of school. While, factors such as constant absentness, unwanted behaviors, and low grades influence drop-out rates, school that have stricter guidelines and repercussions for the factors might make students think twice about their actions.