Spanking your child without telling your child what they did wrong or why they are being punished can leave a child feeling unloved and undeseable. Some parents have been known to torment their child for every little thing they have done wrong, instead of using spanking as a form of discipline. Parents that have not been properly taught by other parents before them on the proper way to spank, can spank their child too much and have a child becoming violent and non good person for the society. A spanking should be a last recur. A parent should first explain to their child what he/she did wrong.
Some people think that smacking a child teaches discipline but how does that work when smacking a child causes so many negative affects. Maybe the reason why so many people agree with smacking children is because they are not aware of the problems with smacking children. So what are the problems with smacking children? Well
Some kids with special needs do not feel pain so to spank them would be pointless. When the child does not respond to the pain from the spanking the adult may get frustrated and the spanking may turn into anger and it can turn bad fast. Some children do things but can’t help it. No matter how many times you spank them you can’t stop them from doing it as they do not know they are doing because it is part of the
It is surely wrong and unfair to punish a child for responding in a natural way to having important needs neglected. For this reason, punishment is not only ineffective in the long run, it is also clearly unjust. 3. Punishment distracts the child from learning how to resolve conflict in an effective and humane way. As the educator John Holt wrote, "When we make a child afraid, we stop learning dead in its tracks."
Although it seems like one is bribing the child, soon they will be able to cooperate on their own. The reward would be unknown, and treated as a simple an act of kindness. In conclusion, spanking is an ugly way of punishing a child and a terrible attempt to get them to listen. Parents do not realize that they are modeling an aggressive response to misbehavior and so their children learn to use an aggressive response when they are frustrated (Rambsung). Once the child gets older, the child will learn to hide or lie about problems in order to avoid being hit resulting in the connection between the child and parent to be lost forever.
Spanking is however still widely used as a means to punish kids across the world. Some have opposed it as a great idea to punish kids owing to it being able to affect their emotions as well as psychology. After being beaten so much the child will only behave when subjected to pain. This only result in more pain as a way to deal with those kids found to have hardened leading to abuse. Most of those found to result to spanking may be frustrated, and only trying to express their emotions.
Some signs for emotional abuse may be that the child is unattached to the parents, or showing extreme behavior such as excessively obedient or extremely insubordinate. They may also act very fearful or reserved. Warning signs of physical abuse will obviously be more easy to spot as they may include repeated bruising, abrasions, or welts. The child may wear clothing that is out of place for the situation in order to cover up markings caused by physical harm. If a child is afraid to go home that could be a strong sign that the child will be abused there.
If spanking shows no effect on my kids then I may start to take away their electronics because that is what society is so centered around today. If my kids are anything like me they will discover other things to do if their “toys” are taken away from them but with the added pain from spanking, kids will realize that its just not worth it. So I do believe spanking is a very effective was of punishing your kids if done correctly. I can see where parents frown upon spanking children because it can be see as abusing your kids but only if done incorrectly. A couple hits with a dry switch that only stings on impact will do the same effect if not more of one than using your hand.
‘It’s Not Discipline, It’s a Teachable Moment’ states that many parents and educators use various forms of punishment to discipline. However, in doing so, they tend to inadvertently reinforce inappropriate behaviors. While time-outs can be effective in helping young children control their emotions, many adults misuse the technique, by making it too long or scolding the child during the time-out. As the article points out, parents will often drop whatever they are doing in order to discipline their child in cases where they are acting up, which is exactly what the child wants, thus rewarding them. Moreover, it is much more effective to reward children for their desirable behavior.
Final Product #2 By banning books, it creates a negative effect on kids and adults and possibly even eliminate the teachings of life lessons for students. Going through life without the knowledge of what else is out there besides “good” in people can be harsh for some people especially for kids. Kids would not be able to handle life too well in the real world, if the whole time when they were younger they were being protected from all the "bad things" and “bad people.” Many people decide to do what they think is best for the safety of children, but in reality when kids grow up to be adults sometimes it harms them in more ways than helping them. Books shouldn't be banned from society, but some books do have suggestive content or profanity. When the so-called “negative parts” of the books remain, kids gain knowledge of what is and what is not good to do, say, or act.