The value of life is in the eye of the beholder; however, many believe that everyone should have a positive outlook on life whether they have a good life or a horrible one. This is unfair to those who do not want the life they have. Everyone has their right to their own opinion which is a great deal of controversy on this subject. Many people have screwed up lives and no longer want to value their lives. These people have the right to accept this and other people believe that they can change their perspective of life.
We are encouraged to focus on all the bad things that may happen especially from our news and media telling us how things are not as good as they used to be. Another reason people fear change because it is the unknown. Lack of knowledge creates fear. People become comfortable with the status quo. So, even when something changes for the better, it takes energy to accept it.
When I criticize and attack myself, it is because knowing I failed makes me think about if i had tried harder then it would have made a difference. Negative self concept is often hidden from the world because we are suppose to perceive ourself with positivity in order to be accepted but that can change. Self concept is basically the beliefs and attitudes we role play in our lives. In How to Improve Your Self Concept, it mentions “your attitudes about yourself may be positive for some roles, and not so positive for others”. There will always be negative views because we do not live even near a Utopia society and we cannot please everybody.
Whitman explains that we have the choice either to; except all the bad things in the world and move on in order to pursue happiness, or to never move past an awful experience and live a terrible life. I have realized through this poem, that in order to make the world a better place, we ourselves first have to except this fact, and to let go of any dreadful incidents in order for people to be happier. I understand that some people just can’t handle it, or it might take longer than others to forgive & forget. But, if a majority of the human beings on Earth today worked toward this goal, then people would be more understanding, and more open/kind to new possibilities. Although, I know this is hoping for too much, but I can gradually see small changes in what people do and say in the modern world.
If reality is inevitable, and there is nothing one can do to stop it, change it, alter it, or make it happen, one may want to distance them self or even ignore the possibilities of inevitable events. This only hurts people in the long run because not only did the inevitable happen, but the reality of the inevitable and the occurrence can cause people even more doom and burthen rather than them preparing and adapting and accepting inevitable events. There is an idea of shame when one thinks of “burthen….forever on a man’s shoulder.” Shame
In the Pursuit of Perfect by Tal Ben-Shahar, he sheds some light into the possibility of obtaining a happy life even with the struggles and challenges that may come our way. It is how we tackle these obstacles and avoid being a perfectionist and adopting an Optimalistic approach. Tal Ben-Shahar provides a step-by-step process to conquer the fear of failure and by taking these tools we learn and apply them to our love life and our lives in general. Failure is a word that most of us don’t want to hear or even experience. We do everything we can to steer away from failing by putting a ton of pressure on ourselves, creating intense anxiety and ultimately being unhappy.
Perhaps another student provoked me to behave improperly, but I realize I have alternatives. I am the one who was hurt by my behavior and I should not let another person annoy me to the point that I would get myself in trouble. Problems with other students can be avoided by thinking clearly and showing a mature attitude. I also have teachers and counselors who are ready to help if there is a situation I cannot handle alone. I know that many times people who say they are my friends will encourage me to do something that could mean trouble later.
All these things are shown many times throughout the play but there are certain times that stand out more than others. Hamlet’s being suicidal and his depression takes over most of his thoughts and they are two main characteristics he shows. During his soliloquies most things he talks about is himself being upset or not wanting to live. He shows his depression by saying, “How weary, stale, flat, and unprofitable seem to me all the uses of this world!” (I ii 133-134). He is really upset about his mother and his uncle, but also his father dying.
The anxiety underlying our fear of change leads to other more specific fears that support a resistance to change. These examples are the ones I have previously stated such as fear of failure. One of the ways to manage resistance to change is being optimistic and positive about certain situations and not doubt yourself and what you can do. The mind is a powerful thing and if you tell yourself or fear something, you are most likely not able to perform the task ahead. Overall, the resistance to change is normal and is among all of us but learning to understand that we will all fear things to change but managing these situations and being optimistic about it can make ourselves
We all live in this society and we all desire to have that instant response of something we really want then and there at that moment. And it may at some point feel truly gratifying. However, whatever you may be gaining in gratification your losing in the ability to be able to ‘brew on something.’ By that I mean you're losing the ability to discover and truly put thought or feeling behind your decisions, yourself and of course others. One impact I see play a major role in a relationship is the inability to have patience in one another. They don't take the time to truly learn and/or love one another.