In the article “Just whom is this Divorce good for? By Marquart she explains, “We found that children of so- called “good” divorces often do worse even than children of unhappy low- conflict marriages. They say more often, that family life was stressful and they had to grow up to soon. They are themselves more likely to divorce and children of divorce feel like divided selves”. I would have to agree with that because I am actually going through my parents getting a divorce and when I found out I didn’t want to believe it at all I didn’t want to see my parents split up it just wasn’t right to me.
For example if a father leaves the mother unexpectedly and the mother cannot cope looking after the child on her own then the child will be optionally put in care or a care order put in place. Once a family have a breakdown this can put a lot of stress on individuals in the family including the children. The children may struggle with their situation and begin to show signs of behavioural problems, this will stress the single parent and then the child once again may be optionally or forced to be put into care. • Suspected abuse- if there are signs that the parents are abusing the child this can be from physical, emotional, social and intellectual abuse then this would be another reason for the child to have a care order put in
This can be damaging to a child because they feel as though one parent is paying the other to keep them. This is usually interpreted negatively. No matter how bad the situation is, if the child is not exposed to the financial distress of the parents, they will not be affected. Children that have no contact with one of their parents, usually suffer the most. Children whose parents divorce will be more likely to be isolated and antisocial than sociable and integrate.
This may cause difficulties because the child could become neglected. Also the child may be looked after by the state because the parent might be unable to meet the needs of the child so they may be better in care until the parent is able to cope again. Interviewer: Do you think any other reasons? Interviewer: I think maltreatment to the child because if the parent has abused the child then they don't deserve to keep the child and the child would be better off in care and away from their family. Also if we left the child in this situation it could lead to death of the child and it wouldn’t be right so if there is any sign of abuse then we will investigate in the situation.
The perpetrator may have been abused as a child; violence may have become a means of resolving disputes in the family/social network. Family history of violence. The stress of caring for a physically and/or mentally frail adult without adequate support can lead to abusive behavior towards the adult. Other events may have occurred to exacerbate the situation, such as a job loss, moving house, the death of a significant other, or financial problems. Dependency on the vulnerable person for money, shelter or emotional support can arouse resentment, sometimes abuse.
Children of separated couples may also perform worse at school and have poorer future employment prospects. Some children are less likely to have successful relationships themselves as adults. However, it is not inevitable that all children will suffer long term harm from the break up of a parent’s relationship. Reference: One plus One strengthening relationships www.oneplusone.org.uk New Sibling: Very young children will find this the most difficult to cope with, vying for parental attention for the first time. Some children may ‘play up’ in response to the stress of the life change.
Children’s belief may cause them emotional conflict when they want to participate in some physical activities which go against their family’s wishes or religious beliefs. Having a new step-family is a big change for some children, this may affect their emotional development, as they may feel as if there mother/father is replacing each other.Coming from a low income family may a significant effect on a child’s development. Children who came from deprived backgrounds are less likely to thrive and achieve well in a school. Family may not be able to afford to pay for extra activities such as swimming lessons or dance lessons, this could an affect child’s physical development.Having numerous siblings can have an impact on children development. Children may feel frustrated with lack of attention.
The lack of emotional care can possibly result in no attachment being formed. It can also result in permanent harm to the infants social and emotional development. The study conducted by Hodges and Tizard (1989) was of ex-institutional children. He aimed to see effects of children who had suffered early privation. He also wanted to test Bowlby's Maternal deprivation (or privation) hypothesis.
If at any point they failed, they would see this as a big mistake and give up and have a lack of motivation. It can also be argued that working class children do not get the support of their parents, this is because many of the parents believe that they survived without an education, so believe that there children can do the same. Working class families can also lack in support in terms of if the child fails a particular exam, they would not give them positive feed back on how they could improve they would improve. Whereas, it can be argued that higher class families have more motivation and the parents also give the support to the children that is needed. This would have a positive influence on the child’s education as it would give them hope and not give them an opportunity of giving up.
Bowlby’s theory of attachment is still relevant in understanding child care issues, but in a world dominated by parental issues psychological intervention may become a way of life. “Privation, when there is failure for a person to form an attachment to any individual- through a series of early different carers or family discord, Distortion occurs through lack of stimulation and affection” ( Woods, 2006, pg 139 ). Attachment issues may continue on in later life, a person could have trouble forming relationships. A person may feel the need to seek help with these issues and a good medium for help would be short term Psychodynamic