Luna Williams English 100 02/10/2014 Just Whom is This Divorce “Good” For? Divorce is a huge topic a lot of parents think about when they feel that there spouse is no longer compatible with them and also the fact that it’s not working out for reason only they will know. It may just be the fact that two people that were deeply in love just feel out of it because of no connection anymore. In the article “Just Whom Is This Divorce” Good” For? Written by Elizabeth Marquart talks about how divorce can cause children even from a good divorce go through it there selves when they get older, children also feel that they are to blame for their parents getting divorced and they lose all interest for other things, there is also a lot of controversy about which parent gets which day can just lead up to a huge custody battle for most.
On the other side is Eric Bartels who, in his article “My Problem with Her Anger”, describes the hostile nature of the relationship that he has with his wife since the birth of their children However the authors may differ they do touch on similar topics throughout the articles. One common idea among the two viewpoints is that a family requires sacrifice from both partners in order to be successful, but just what that sacrifice entails seems to differ from one perspective to the next. Both authors refer to the feminist movement as an underlying cause for much of the disharmony in their relationships; both cite the notion of co-parenting and equal division of labor as a cause of embitterment and anger on the part of the wife when they realized that it was not the case. While the ideas expressed by the two authors may differ in many ways, there are some ideas that are shared by both parties. That is building and maintaining a family is no easy task and, no matter how hard you may try, you cannot please everyone all the time.
Due to her domineering presence this meant that any chance that child A’s mother had of being able to fulfil her role as the primary carer was undermined and must have caused great stress and tension within the family unit. This is picked up on by the child who will often display negative behaviour just before a home visit in the hope that care staff will cancel it. This would remove the burden of saying she doesn’t want to go herself which she feels would be like rejecting her family. This finally leads me to the grandfather who would have been the only male to have been involved in child A’s development but he appears to have taken a very minor role and chose to stay in the background letting his domineering wife pull the family strings. This meant again that child A had no dominant male role model in her life and reinforced the grandmother’s matriarchal role.
1:2 Describe with examples how different aspects of development can affect one another. Example 1: Separation/Divorce When a couple is getting divorce or separated with young children this can affect their behaviour patterns for example by getting into trouble with police or in school which will give them the attention they need while they may not be getting as much with the parents concentrating on their situation. This can cause various things in the child such as not eating due to the stress and anxiety caused by what will happen to their family home due to moving to new school or just being in a single parent family which can be a big change. It can be much more of a factor for a young person when it becomes general knowledge in their friendship circle. Other disadvantages from this situation can be that sometimes a single parent can’t afford expensive holidays which would make the child feel left out when they are talking about events when after coming back from their holidays and are asked to write or tell about what happened during the school holidays.
Sociologically, grieving within families is not an easy task. Each family member reacts to death differently and forces family members to make changes in their lives in order to adjust to life without this family member. Raney and Charles had a hard time accepting the suicide of Uncle Nate. When Charles voiced his opinion that Uncle Nate was clearly depressed, obsessive-compulsive, and crippled from his life experiences, thus needing psychological help in order to heal, Raney took it as an insult. In Raney’s mind, Charles was placing blame on her, her family, and specifically, her mother who spent most of her time taking care of Uncle Nate.
Stone Soup This essay about “Stone Soup” by Barbara Kingsolver’s is a personal response to society’s view of “broken” family, because children grow up in separate families and this can affect them on their growing. She trusts that society has for many years criticized divorce, single parenthood, remarriage, blended families and gay parents, and that alternative families deserve equal standing in our society. The purpose of the author is to convince people that families are not perfect and that no one should judge them, because who they are to say what a traditional family is? She is trying to transmit that any stereotype of parents are able to raise a child under any condition. No matter is a child is raised by a gay couple or by unmarried parents, children can be as happy as they want.
Family is one of the most important things in life. Family is the one thing that a person can rely on no matter what. The ruling power is intentionally breaking down family relationships in both of these books. Both main characters in the end of Fahrenheit 451 and The Giver are unhappy with their family. Montag is because he realizes that his wife doesn’t really love him or appreciate him.
The Imbalance of Work and Family Many times in modern society working individuals find it difficult to balance family time and work. One will always take time from the other and finding a balance between the two is rare. This is shown in “Contents of The Dead Man’s Pocket” by Jack Finney, where Tom Benecke choses to work instead of going to the theatre with his wife, and he ends up regretting this choice greatly. The theme of this story is that family time is much more important than work and family must be held before work, and a similar theme may be seen in “Double Daddy” by Penny Parker, and “The Child’s View of Working Parents” by Cora Daniels and Ellen Galinsky. First of all, the theme is shown as the story progresses and Tom Benecke’s character develops.
She also decided to give more precedence to career rather than her family which in turn created a huge gap between herself and her family. As she became obsessed with her work, she began to overlook her family. In this way, the ambition for the top, the allotment of more time for work all contributed in weakening Kate’s family relationships. In the novel, Crow Lake it was also revealed how loneliness can bring two teens together through the relationship between Matt Morrison and Marie Pye. As Mary’s brother Laurie ran way from home after the clash with their father Calvin Pye, their mother got sick.
I am going to talk about whether parents use their children to do the jobs they themselves find distasteful or whether children are given those jobs for a special reason that may be intended to help them in life. In my own opinion I think that it all comes down to the type of person he or she is, or they are trying to prepare the kids for life when the grow up. Lots of parents probably do give the jobs they hate most to the kids, because it could take a long time and may get in the way of them doing something else which they prefer more. They might give the jobs they dislike doing to most to children because they want more time to do what they like and to enjoy themselves while the children to the jobs they hate doing. The last reason I think that parents may give their children the jobs they dislike the most is because they might be lazy or have always disliked doing that job.