Hope talked about the resentment that accumulated in the relationship over time. She also discusses the effect and changes in her life when they had children and the way there marriage was effected by this. She also explains how the relationship worked out and how they both overcame obstacles that were in their way and how co-parenting worked from her point of view. The issues she discussed about co-parenting and her marriage were about lack of time spent together, each having “equal division of labor” and entering a marriage with a false belief of it being perfect. She also brings up throughout the writing how she and her friends discussed entering a relationship or marriage with belief of co-parenting was attainable.
Among the new information I learned, there were a lot of similarities and differences between the women. One comparison was that the women were both designated to wed a cousin. As a cultural taboo in America, I saw this to be very odd and awkward. It is widely accepted in the middle eastern cultures to marry someone in your own family, and it is seen as strengthening. Even though the two women were matched with their cousins, neither of them liked their “fiances”.
The author illustrates to all the women how lonely and dependently women have in the family. In the story, Calixta’s husband doesn’t quite recognize her sexual desire. For that reason, Calixta and Alcee experienced the passionate moment while her husband is away with their sons. “When he touched her breasts they gave themselves up in quivering ecstasy, inviting his lips. Her mouth was a fountain of delight.
Rose, the daughter of An-Mei Hsu, is married to Ted and they have a daughter named Jennifer. Rose always tries her best to please her husband and be a perfect mother for their young daughter. Rose is shocked when she learns that Ted has been having an affair with another woman and that he wants a divorce to move in with her. He even wants to sell their house. Yet after her mother tells her the story of Rose's maternal grandmother, who never knew worth until death, the formerly weak-willed Rose becomes determined to assert herself.
Another theme is the similarity of marriage to a business transaction. The father of the bride, in this case Baptista, pays the husband a sum of money to marry their daughter and the father would choose who his daughter would wed. Finally, the domination of the husband in the relationship, especially prevalent in the play, as Petruchio is trying to gain control over Katherine and show his authority in their marriage. One of the main issues around marriage in ‘The Taming of the Shrew,’ is that women were meant to be obedient and cater to her husband’s every need. At the beginning of the play Katherine is stubborn and ill tempered.
Haley Muggy Basuli SURVEY WOMENS LIT ENGL315A SEC 001 3/14/13 Option #2 The Yellow Wallpaper and its’ Relation to Sandra Fluke From the very beginning of “The Yellow Wallpaper”, written by Charlotte Perkins Gillman, it is clear that the main character is being oppressed and demeaned by her husband John. “John laughs at me, of course, but one expects that in marriage,” she writes about her husbands’ reaction to her questions about their future summer home. The fact that she says that being mocked is expected in marriage is a sad thought, and makes me hope that we have come a long way when it comes to marital relationships since this story was written. This story is set in the 19th century, and was written to draw attention to the need for women’s physical and mental health to be taken more seriously. “Hysteria” was a common diagnosis seen in only women for hundreds of years in Western Europe.
The climax is when Offred starts to fall in love with Nick and thinks she might be pregnant. While trying to figure out her feelings, she and Ofglen, another Handmaid, have to go watch an execution of a woman who has broken the rules. Becoming pregnant should keep her safe but falling in love with Nick is putting her in danger. Offred realizes that Ofglen, one of her only friends, has killed herself when she saw the secret police coming for her. The Commander’s wife confronts her in private about her secret meetings with her husband.
When Tan’s parents invite the boy and his family over for Christmas Eve dinner, she was on an emotional rollercoaster, she stated “I cried”(pg 349) and acknowledging the event as being a “shabby Chinese Christmas” (pg 349). Tan’s actions and emotions throughout the dinner was concentrated to only impress Robert. Tan makes it very clear of her newfound embarrassment of her family traditions and customs stating “my mother had outdone herself in creating a strange menu” (pg 349) because of Roberts presence she continued describing the menu items with disgust contradictory of what she would have said had Robert not been there. As the dinner progressed she threw herself deeper in despair when her mother brought out the whole steamed fish and her father offered her the fish cheek saying “Amy your favorite” (pg 350) and she “wanted to disappear” (pg 350). The shame of her customs did not end with that as the dinner grew to a close her father belched loudly stating “its polite Chinese custom to show you are
However this could have quite a sad undertone and that Kate is putting on this harsh front to prevent her from marrying into an even more dominant male world. In the Elizabethan times, women were expected to marry and were always ‘looked after’ by men, but once married the woman’s husband was allowed to chastise their wife. There were also very few divorces, meaning once married women were trapped. So Shakespeare could possibly showing that all her inner sadness due to her more loved sister, her lack of beauty and the male dominance that she is being made to marry, could be forcing her to act angrily as she thinks it’s the only way to prevent herself from being unwillingly condemned to marrying the men her father wants her to. Shakespeare also uses Petruchio to emphasise his misogynistic view, as he is able to act very aggressively towards her, and says ‘I’ll cuff you if you strike again’.
She is indicating that “some” refers to the fact that affairs are frequent. I agree with Gylys that marriages are not nearly as meaningful as they used to be because affairs have become far more common. Gylys thinks that most often affairs are the result of a lack of taking the chance to think about the consequences and what a marriage means. However, I disagree with that view because it should not take any thinking to not have an affair. If a person is truly in love with their spouse, they should never have the thought of cheating in the first place.