However this bold assumption does not take into account the realities of love or. Love in itself is not a static feeling or engagement with another person. Love changes, it can grow or fade over time and by branding arranged marriages as intolerable we are locking the doors to all those who have and will found love in marriages that may at first not have solely been based on this emotion. In relation to women, many may feel that they are unfairly forced into these marriages by misogynistic fathers who marry them off for their own personal gain. Realistically this is sometimes the case and in such scenarios arranged marriages should not be tolerated, but not because of the concept of the marriage itself, but because everyone should have a free and fair choice in matters that concern them.
Cohabitation can never be right Reason 1 (The view I disagree with) To be living together suggests that you are in love with that person, and want to be closer to him/her by living under the same roof. It is not the same as being married, where you have an on-going relationship. Instead, it is known as romance without relationship, which according to today’s society and statistics, lead to arguments and conflicts, and eventually leads to being separated. But why does this happen? This is because couples who are cohabiting have not built a strong enough relationship yet, and therefore become more and more distant as they argue about the smallest of things.
This indicates that there is not a strong bond between Richard and his potential wife, rather he is marrying for convenience, she is the ideal wife for his situation. In immediate contrast is Hermia and Lysander’s conversation. The lover’s are talking directly to each other, expressing the love that they have for one another, along with the despair of their situation. Unable to legally marry in Athens they mourn that “the course of true love never did run smooth,” indicating that true love often faces hurdles. The exchange between the two indicates closeness between them,
The second problem is that the experience of falling in love is invariably temporary.” To sum it up, Peck says that we fall in love accidently, and only temporarily. To “fall in love” is a false identification of “true love” because it is accidental. We don’t try to fall in love because it is impossible. In some respects (but certainly not all) the act of falling in love is an act of regression. The experience of merging with the loved one has in it echoes from the time when we were merged with our mothers in infancy.
The woman in the poem speaks of her life as though it were a chore and the man, her lover, is but a bother. In “Living in Sin” the speaker expresses their tone in the opening line “She had thought the studio would keep itself; no dust upon the furniture of love.” The speaker thought that moving in would be a fairytale like story for her lover and herself if they moved in together. She never guessed that she would actually have to take care of their home. It also makes the reader think that perhaps the speaker came from a wealthy or well off family where the speaker didn’t have to do the usual household chores. “Half heresy, to wish the taps less vocal, the panes relieved of grime.” The speaker is not even up to cleaning windows on her own.
“ he is not like to marry me well and, not being well married it will be a good excuse for me hereafter to leave my wife” , this quote illustrates his unromantic portrayal of love, as he is willing to go through great measures to avoid being tied down to one woman. In this quote, touchstone implies that it will be easier to get rid of his wife because they are not getting married, traditionally, in a church. This introduces the fact that he is unromantic, selfish and his practicality. It shows his carelessness towards love, and he would rather have a sexual companion than to have a loving, meaningful relationship. He tells the reader that he is a realist, to support this he quotes,” unless thou wert hard favoured: for honesty coupled to beauty is to have honey a sauce to sugar.” Touchstone says that it is too good ti be true, if a good looking woman is also honest.
Basically he just wants her to be 'shown off' as little as possible. We could say that this is parental worrying but having the audacity to go to the extreme of thinking of not even giving her a chance to stand on her own feet, clearly eliminates the idea of parental concern. The fact that he states that “The heads are turning like windmills” knowing that those ‘heads’ turn to every woman passing, reflect his jealousy rather than his care. This establishes the idea in the reader's mind that he is 'over-protective' about Catherine in the context of a lover. Having this level of Dominance towards not a daughter, but a niece, is very uncommon in the real world.
Most important, she does not realize that, rather than being committed to staying single (as she always claims), she is in love with and wants to marry Mr. Knightley. Though these mistakes seriously threaten Harriet’s happiness, cause Emma embarrassment, and create obstacles to Emma’s own achievement of true love, none of them has lasting consequences. Throughout the novel, Knightley corrects and guides Emma; in marrying Knightley, Emma signals that her judgment has aligned with his. Austen predicted that Emma would be “a character whom no one but me will much like.” Though most of Austen’s readers have proven her wrong, her narration creates many ambiguities. The novel is narrated using free indirect discourse, which means that, although the all-knowing narrator speaks in the third person, she often relates things from Emma’s point of view and describes things in language we might imagine Emma using.
Whilst time changes many things, one thing it does not change is the experience of deep emotions. Whether they are love, hatred, grief or friendship, human have always attempted to explore what it is to love and to hate. One way they have done this is through poetry. Four poems which do just this are the nineteenth century love poem, ‘Friendship After Love’, written by Ella Wheeler Wilcox, ee cummings, ‘it may not always be so’ written in the twentieth century, World War One poem ‘Dulce et Decorum Est’ written by Wilfred Owen and finally, ‘Homecoming’ written by Bruce Dawe about the Vietnam War. These four poems explore many things about love, war and the similarities and differences between them.
Rather than "anti-marriage," it may be more accurate to say that many of these couples are "anti-divorce." Meaning, they are so afraid of a marital breakup that they are looking at cohabitation as a "trial marriage" that can protect them from entering a marriage that could end up in divorce (Mattox 1997). Couples might also consider cohabitation because that living arrangement worked out for someone they know, but have not seen or aware of the red flags of that relationship. Hence, what those couples have not thought about is the potential consequences of cohabitation