There is a difference, however, between punching your child in the face, and spanking him on the bottom when he is misbehaving. Unfortunately, some parents take smacking and spanking their children too far. Some parents use physical discipline to the point where the child is receiving bruises or starts bleeding. Banning the spanking of children will not solve the real abusive cases. People who abuse their children will not stop just because it is illegal(1, Selwyn Duke , The New American).
Spanking Vs. Other Forms of Punishment Christina Cole Ashland Community and Technical College Spanking Vs. Other Forms of Punishment There are many schools of thought when it comes to disciplining a child. There are extremists who are strongly against corporal punishment, and others who believe that spanking is the only way to get results with children. However, like anything in life, a happy medium is probably the way to go. Whatever you think is the best tool to use and whatever your opinion may be, the exploration of both ways of thinking is always fascinating. According to an article published in Time Magazine, spanking can be used as an appropriate form of child discipline.
Hitting Children Example of Physical violence such as slapping or beating , can range from a mild to strong slap in the face causing bruising and abuse of the body of the child. Some believe that attacking children as a means of discipline and as a style of education is acceptable. They also think that it teaches them not to do things and that it prevents them from what repeating the unacceptable behavior therefore making this practice effective. The imposition of control when parents use physical violence or the threat of violence to control the behavior of the child and include beatings. This method is wrong because it had bad consequences.
It seemed to be the most effective and typical way to discipline their kids. Today spanking or smacking is a major issue in todays society. Many more people these days believe that smacking children is a form of child abuse and if a parent smacks a child in public there likely to be stared at, have something said to them or in extreme cases might be reported for abuse. Having been smacked as a child a few times for naughty behaviour, I now believe that smacking should not be illegal and that it is a vital part in helping develop discipline , understanding the hierarchy between parent and child and keeping the child and others out of harm. I am a firm believer that a short, sharp smack can keep children under control.
If parents correct their children, then the children learn right from wrong. Golden’s and Shaffer’s views that toy weapons present violence are alike because they share a similar attitude towards violence. The authors believe that it is wrong to let children play with toy weapons at such an early age. Toy weapons teach them that violence solves problems, and it is the parents’ responsibility to teach their children their values in regards to violence. Another view that Golden’s and Shaffer’s articles share relates toy weapons to death.
Spanking is wrong Spanking is one of the most common forms of discipline used by parents. Although the very same parents do not condone hitting people, they believe spanking is a quick and effective technique for correcting unwanted behavior (Ramsburg 1). Ironically, by using violent and hurtful means of discipline, parents are instilling negative values in their children. The moral consequences of spanking children can have lifelong negative effects. For young children, parents are their primary role models.
In case, the student does not obey my instruction, positive punishment, which is the application of an unfavorable stimulus after an undesirable behavior in order to decreases that response, is a very useful method and the result can be shown shortly. For example, if the students are not obey my words I would like to tell their parents and let their parents to reprimand them afterwards or I would just castigate them at that time by myself. Although the students will become dutiful in a short time, they may afraid of me after that and do not want to have a lesson again. It is no doubt that positive punishment is an effective way for punishing students and it can achieve the result in a short time, however, this is not the best way to punish the students. It is because this may not only lead to a damaged relationship between teachers and students, but also can lead to negative associations.
Spanking may stop the child then and there, but there’s a cost emotionally and cognitively to a child, and over the long run, it doesn’t usually lead to the child learning not to repeat the behavior that resulted in the spanking in the first place. It can also lead to the child learning to behave because of fear, not because of respect. (Cantu) Spanking a child results in them being afraid, and that hitting is the way you handle conflict. Instead, send a message to your child such as, “I love you and I can’t let you do that.” Children can learn best by mimicking their parents’ ability to control themselves, and parents can be models by using calm, firm and neutral discipline” (Cantu). Spanking is a form of abuse that people tend to turn a blind eye to.
Is it the only method of discipline that works? Now what a lot of parents don’t know is that, not only does smacking have short term mental and physical effects, it also has long term psychological effects which is why I believe smacking should be banned. Research shows that smacking undermines children’s confidence, weakens their emotional relationships and encourages the use of violence to solve any conflict with people around them. Psychologists say that alcoholism, depression, masochistic fantasies and suicidal thoughts arise from being smacking during childhood. Let’s just stop for a minute and think about this, how on earth can we expect children to play with other children without hitting each other, if we as
If children do not trust people then the will mistrust them thus leading to personality problems and classroom problems. The second stage of Erikson’s personal development is Autonomy is pride in one’s self and when a person has pride in their self they can accomplish anything. Also in stage two if the child does not have autonomy they may develop low self-esteem and have an urge to manipulate his or herself. Children with autonomy still have pride in themselves when they fail because they have done all that they can do. As a parent and teacher we have to make sure that we push children to their limit and make sure that we award them too.