This leads to Amir listening and following the foot paths of Rahim Khan who is like a father figure to Amir as he gives advices to Amir rather than his father giving him the advice he seeks for. Amir seeks for love and approval from his Baba but, instead finds it in Rahim Khan who always gives instructions that will benefit Amir. However, Amir ends up taking the place of Rahim’s Khans father as he ends up thinking of “one of us had to go” in this case Hassan. He thinks that Hassan would have suffered if he was to stay. The reader can suggest this us Amir feeling guilty and wants Hassan to leave, so that he can stop suffering from what he had done wrong and look into his future.
When Amir want to make Hassan become a theft, baba turns him to shock “Except Baba stunned me by saying, “I forgive you” (Hosseini 112) Baba is a strictly person. He does not like any one do something bad and especially that is stealing. When baba says “I forgive you”, it makes Amir feel jealous to them. In the beginning of the novel, when Amir asks his father about which sin with baba is the biggest and baba answer that is stealing. This is the reason that makes him get shock.
Baba would not encourage Amir to pursue writing because he didn't see it as a masculine thing to do. Perhaps one of the most prevalent differences between Baba and Amir is the way they see Hassan. In many ways Baba sees him as the son Amir should have been. Hassan is athletic, hard working, and exceptionally loyal. Amir treats Hassan like an underling, someone who makes him feel better about himself.
Family members are supposed to be nice to each other. They aren't supposed to bully or be mean to each other. Doodle's brother, from James Hurst's "The Scarlet Ibis," does not follow this family standard. A lot of readers say that he was a good brother but the truth is that he was not. He was arrogant and ungenerous to Doodle and only did things for himself.
Neither does he know how to get rid of the guilt, until Rahim Khan gives him a way. Amir keeps blaming himself for his mother’s death and he thinks that Baba is mad at him for killing his wife. When Baba is dead, Amir finds out the truth about his father. Now Amir feels that he doesn’t only have his own sins to sort out, but also his father’s. When Amir doesn’t prevent Hassan from getting raped he begins to feel dirty.
Amir discovers how badly he treated Hassan in their past, that he wants to make up for it. I personally do not believe that Amir finds redemption because although he wants to redeem himself, he is only thinking of himself again. He never adopts Sohrab out of the goodness of his heart but
After he says this, Amir knows where the conversation is going, but he does not want to hear it. Rahim tells him that Baba is Hassan's legitimate father, and Baba managed to keep that secret from both Hassan and Amir their whole lives. This could also have indirectly been the cause of Hassan's death, because if he had known, his life would have theoretically been completely different. But the reason Baba did not tell this to anyone because it would have put their family in danger. Being related to a Hazran would have meant suffering for all of them, so Baba did the righteous thing and kept it to himself in order to keep his reputation in the community.
In his words and actions, Baba sets the moral bar in the novel. When Amir is a boy, Baba’s major concern about him is that he doesn’t have the courage to stand up for himself, demonstrating that Baba places great value on doing what is right. If Amir cannot take of himself as a boy, he worries, he will not have the strength to behave morally as an adult. Baba follows through on these beliefs in his own behavior. When he and Amir flee Kabul, he is willing to sacrifice his life to keep the Russian guard from raping the woman with them, and in doing so he sets the example that Amir will follow later when he must choose between saving himself or doing what he knows to be right.
The Gift of Guilt Friedrich Nietzche stated, “What was silent in the father speaks in the son, and often I found in the son, the unveiled secret of the father”. Baba kept a secret from everyone and this ended up causing Amir to treat Hassan differently. By reflecting Baba’s actions, Baba’s secret was unveiled through Amir. Amir tried to get his father’s approval and tried to be more like his Baba, but he thought he never would. The truth is that Amir is more like Baba than he knew.
Baba, by imposing his status and strength onto a child who clearly cannot follow in this path changes how Amir reacts to fearful situations. Fearful situations require you to do what’s best for yourself and no matter how much you may want to help someone as is seen by Amir regretting his decision to not help Hassan later in life in the end Amir chooses what benefits himself the most. If Baba had not imposed such a strict male dominance hierarchy into Amir’s life and put more emphasis on helping each other Amir would have made a different decision no matter how much he feared