This clearly shows an example of how destructive shame can be on someone’s life. Some people can overcome shame and redeem them selves but to other people it can destroy their whole life. Another character form the book that experiences the tragedy of shame is Baba. Thru out the book it is revealed to us that Hassan is also Baba’s son. Baba feels ashamed of being Hassan’s father because he kept it a secret to everyone for all this time.
The next time he goes to Afganistan is when he goes to visit Rahim. Rahim tells him another big turning point, Hassan was his half brother. This makes him feel even worst about the things that he did to Hassan and makes him feel worst about running him and Ali off. He tries to redeem himself and do something good by saving Hassan's son because Hassan has died. I think that Amir would have to do a lot more to take back what he did as a child but I also feel like he saved his son more for Rahim than for Hassan.
During the course of the novel of ‘Deadly Unna?’ the readers are exposed to the negativity between the father and his son. This affects Blacky in way that his self-esteem is almost non-existent, and the negativity is prominent throughout the novel. Examples of the neglect shown by his father are that of the time when Bob refers to Blacky as a ‘gutless wonder’, and the journey we take through the story of Blacky’s deteriorating respect for him. The ‘gutless wonder’ incident was a influential part of the novel, as Blacky realises that his Dad isn’t one to take advice of someone he feels is inferior than him, thus saying, ‘My own son, a gutless wonder. A gutless fucking wonder!’ When Blacky explains to his father about the storm, Bob insults him rather than swallow his pride and takes his son’s advice on board.
Unfortunately, Doodle was no match for his brother’s aggressive and selfish actions. In the end, Brother’s pride is to blame for Doodle’s untimely death. Brother’s pride was responsible for his opinion of Doodle. At times, Brother was kind and loving to Doodle, but the reader soon realizes that the narrator was mostly harsh and cruel to his brother. In the beginning of the story, Brother recounts the day Doodle was born, saying that he was a disappointment as soon as he entered the world.
Amir and Hassan where both concealed of the fact that Hassan was Baba’s true son despite Baba’s himself stating that ‘lying is stealing someone’s right to the truth’. The fact that Amir was finally told this information by Rahim Khan only highlights the idea that he was the only supportive male figure he had in his life, and the lack of communication between Amir and Baba makes Amir question the true identity of his father. In the same way, Amir fails to admit to his father as to what really happened in the winter of 1975, and now feels even more burdened with his ‘past of unatoned sins’ that have haunted him ‘for the last 26 years’. Secondly, many may see that joy was never present in some relationships because of the impact of their fathers on their lives. In Amir’s case, Baba was disappointed not to be graced with the archetypal Afghan son of the 1970’s that was tall, strong, sportive, willing to carry on the family name, but perhaps more importantly being able to stand up in himself.
For the rest of his life, Amir regretted his lack of action and blamed himself for what he did to Hassan. So when Rahim Kahn pleads him to come back to Kabul and to save Sohrab, convinces himself to save Hassan's son since he could not save Hassan himself. He goes as far as fighting Assef and says that although he is beaten within an inch of his life, he, "felt healed. Healed at last." (p289).
Making big mistakes in his childhood, Amir has lived his own life with regret and the shame of the past, but tried to avoid it, as he made a commence in the beginning, " I knew it wasn't just Rahim Khan on the line. It was my past of unatoned sins." (1). Recalling of his past, Amir blamed himself as a coward, who had betrayed his childhood friend, Hassan. By taking the excuse what the most important thing to him is Baba's love, Amir consoled himself that Hassan was just a price which he needed to pay for it, because "Nothing was free in this world"
My mind flashes back to the winter day six years ago. I see myself again suffering from my cowardice, peering down the alley, watching. Baba said it himself; if he hadn’t seen me pulled from my mother he would’ve never believed I was his son, something I myself have to question. My Baba is “Mr Hurricane”, Baba the honourable. Baba is a hero where as I Amir am a coward, a frail disappointment.
Elie and his father have a strong relationship and Elie wants to survive with his father. Rabbi Eliahou and his son’s story makes Elie realize that he has to take care of his father and both of them live. Rabbi Eliahou’s son treats his father badly and leaves the father, because he does not want to be stuck with an old man. His son got both of them killed. In response to this Elie asks, "My God, Lord of the Universe, give me strength never to do what Rabbi Eliahou’s son has done,"(67).
when Okonkwo father died he had been in a lot of debt, Okonkwo became obsessed with the idea of manliness in order to get over his father weakness. ”It was the fear himself, lest he should be found to resemble his father.”(13). Therefore, Okonkwo only showed the emotion of anger. He strongly believed that "To show affection was a sign of weakness the only thing worth demonstrating was strength.”(28). Okonkwo’s life first began to fall apart when Ikemefuna, his supposed to be son was killed.