During her life journey she discovers many women to aid her and help her find herself. With the effect of Rosaleen, Black Mary, and The Boatwright sisters Lily is able to withstand all the changes that she has to undergo. With these special people behind her, all she needs now is to believe. Rosaleen shows Lily her love and support toward her thoughts and actions. Rosaleen treats Lily as if Lily was her own daughter, loving and taking care of her.
August and helps her out because she loves her. In a way, August also becomes like Lily’s mother. August makes a very positive impact on Lily and helps her realize who she really is. From the very beginning, August welcomes Lily with open arms and helps her in any way she can. Not very long after they meet, Lily develops an immense trust in August, something she’s never felt towards anyone else.
Basically having to perceive yourself a certain way to fit in. For example, Linda S. Mindle who wrote Breaking Free From a Negative Self Image, explains “you’ve swallowed the lie that if you just feel better about yourself, everything else will fall into place. But it hasn’t, and your self image remains vulnerable to what people say and what you perceive”. This distorts our self image. Negative self image starts from feedback from others whom then we make our own.
Janie’s Self Identity Self Identity is who you are to yourself. Self-Identity is important because you need to know who you are and it gives you internal peace. When people can’t find their own identity they start to try and blend in with others. At first Janie couldn’t find her own identity and was not at peace with herself. Janie had problems finding her own identity, bad marriages, unworthy friends, and very jealous townspeople caused her difficulties.
She even hoped that it could lead her to a piece of her Mother’s past that was never reclaimed and it did. The picture lead Lily to the people that her Mother held dear to her heart: The Boatwright Sisters. The Boatwright Sisters were hardworking, educated, black women. They did not judge Lily because of her skin. There were no judgments cast.
Deception is often used but it is not supposed to be. She could have hid the real reason she was getting this information so she can get better responses. More truthful and real responses, people tend to lie when they know the real reason behind a study. And finally Analysis an Reporting, her whole point of this research is to get information. What if it contradicts with her findings?
While her getting worse than before, it dramatically shows the procedure of being enlightened in case of rising of female powers. There are several evidences that may represent narrator’s mental instability and they seem to be originated from John’s oppressive way to treat her. The narrator is afraid that John doesn't seem to understand her state fully enough. "Personally, I believe that congenial work, with excitement and change, would do me good." (1279) She knows doing her favorite work―writing―and traveling around beautiful places may be helpful to recover her nervous hypochondria, but she just tries not to make John irritated by doing nothing.
It almost seems as if Lazarus has it in for the genre of animated children’s stories! The idea that such a negative theme must be brought into the story tells volumes about Lazarus in that she resents her inability to bring about change herself. Alas, we all have issues but that doesn’t make it right for us to impose our opinions and beliefs upon what we can only assume to understand. Lazarus should not judge lest she be judged. If change only occurred through Simba’s ascension to the throne, her argument may have had merit but that is obviously not the case.
Many people venture through life without considering the consequences of their actions. Some believe in fate and some hope destiny will find them. But destiny is meant to be fulfilled. People must be aware of the changes around them and they must attempt to better the world through knowledge instead of through material objects. In Douglas Coupland’s, Girlfriend in a Coma, Coupland suggests that solely existing is not sufficient and that destiny is not something that occurs naturally, but it is “what we work toward” (6).
But there is a dark side to it that people often fail to see. And this dark side can actually leave them feeling worse about themselves; and failing to make sought-after changes in their lives. Kristin Neff, a renowned researcher on compassion, expressed the downsides of pursuing high self-esteem in her piece Self-Compassion: Moving beyond the pitfalls of a separate self-concept (2008). I'll summarize some of what she wrote while also sharing my own thoughts on this topic.When people succeed, their self-esteem is often elevated, and they feel good. At those times, all is well.