Sherman and Adelaide Haas in “Man to Man, Woman to Woman”, husbands and wives often have communication issues. That is why men and women talk about different topics. Base on some questions asked to different couple, men and women can rarely talk about the same topics like television, work and movies, but women will react more emotional than men. Then making fun of the other person opinion could easy lead to argument or fights. Men enjoy talking to other man because they don’t have to watch what they are saying and because freedom, playfulness and camaraderie.
Although using emotion to discuss about male and female linguistic style connects to the readers, however emotions are a person’s personal view and always one-sided. Maynard uses her personal experience in “His Talk, Her Talk” to convey her readers about the different language styles of males and females “At a party I attended the other night” (par 3) as she explains her experience of genders separating with the same sex. Maynard gives her view and information on what she experienced with a biased view unlike Sherman and Haas who explain their claim with statistics and analysis while giving readers an objective outlook of their
Molly Curcio November 13, 2011 Comparative Thesis Paper In both Deborah Tannen’s “Different Words, Different Worlds, and Anna Quindlen’s Between the Sexes, A Great Divide” an explanation is given about the differences between women and men. Both authors share some common themes. However, there are definitely major differences. Quindlen’s piece is not only significantly shorter but her writing style, examples, and opinions are a bit different. Tannen’s writing is lengthy, personal, analytical and well sourced.
Metamessages Men and women often receive messages in an erroneous way due to misunderstandings caused by metamessages. A metamessage is a message concealed in a message that a woman usually has a better understanding of. In Talk in the Intimate Relationship: His and Hers, by Deborah Tannen, demonstrates how women and men have different communication skills than one another. Women are seen to “have a relatively greater need for involvement, and men a greater need for independence,” causing the opposite sex to retrieve a message incorrectly from what was meant to be said (200). The article clarifies how genders react to metamessages as well as how they can retrieve them and apply them to their daily conversations.
That is, men and women, as well as boys and girls, are more alike than they are different” (Hyde, 2005, p. 581). To prove her hypothesis she focused on specific categories for possible similarities such as, cognitive variables, nonverbal and verbal communication, social and personality variables, psychological well-being, motor behaviors, and moral reasoning. My opinion of gender, prior to reading the article, men and women are far more different than others tend to want to believe. Women tend to be more driven by their emotions whereas men are driven more on their skills to problem solve and physical capabilities. That is not to say that there is not a sense of equality, but based on my personal observations a female has the tendency to be more capable of carrying out and following through with tasks more than a man.
Such as women can not perform manual work as well as men, on the other hand, a man’s entire chemistry is different allowing him to be less emotional than a woman. Jane Addams and her colleague Ellen Gates Starr founded Hull House a place for down and out women. Jane treated these women as friends and ignoring their faults, became very close to these women. Being close to these women allowed Jane to understand their struggle but much of the information she gathered remained unpublished. She saw social differentiation as a block that society needed to get over, infuriately she herself was a victim.
As the objective of impartiality between men and women is ever closer we are also losing our attentiveness of essential differences. In many circles of culture, politically correct judgment is obliterating essential dialogue as well as our understanding of the similarities and differences between men and women. The mental picture of equality between men and women has lessened the
Edgell says that women do most decision making frequently on a probably daily basis, but their decisions go unnoticed whereas men make fewer decisions more infrequently but they seem to be the more important decisions such as moving house or buying a car or other serious financial decisions. A radical feminist would say that Edgells study just outlines the fact that we are living in a patriarchal society and that men are viewed more highly and have more power and control in the relationship, and that women are just used for everyday menial tasks. In conclusion, there is much to y for both sides of the argument but it is difficult to decide either way. It appears that there is some equality but we have a long way to go before actual
‘Larkin rarely presents women in a positive light.’ In the light of this statement compare the ways in which Larkin and Abse write about women in their poems. In your response, you must include detailed critical discussion of at least two of Larkin’s poems. I agree with the statement ‘Larkin rarely presents women in a positive light’ as in his poems ‘Sunny Prestatyn’ and ‘Wild Oats’ it is recognizable that he portrays women as sex objects. In contrary, Abse feels a more personal and passionate connection towards women which is demonstrated through the poems ‘Two Photographs’ and ‘Blond Boys.’ Both poets explore their attraction to woman. Conversely Larkin presents his fascination over women to be a sexual one in which he also degrades them.
The article talks about the gender role between men and women role during intimacy and how affectionate they can become. Some men loves attention and so does women too. On the other hand, although they both love this attention, they need to give each other breathing space so that they can bond deeper with each other to not finding flaws of a relationship. Being an attentive person and to someone needs at all time will be required, if it persist. But, what will happen when one day that attention cannot be given because one decide to do something differently, then the other person will feel like they are not being loved or wanted anymore.