Essay on Abandonment

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Sirad Ahmed Intermediate reading and writing Prof: Suzan The feeling of abandonment after a mother leaves her child. Growing up as a child is difficult in one way or another. Everyone has experienced some kind of abandonment during childhood. There are different types and levels of abandonment. Abandonment can have a number of consequences, which can be both relatively immediate and long-term. In the article Perspective on fear of abandonment causes effects and options, by Peter Gerlach describes the feeling of abandonment after a mother or caregiver leaves her child. The effects of abandonment will differ depending on the child’s age, gender, and relationship with his/her caregiver or mother. The three main effects of abandonment that Sal has experienced after her mother left were guilt, confusion and fear. The first main effect of abandonment that Sal experienced after her mother left was guilt. According to Peter Gerlach, guilt is when an individual feels that she/he has done something to deserve the abandonment. For instance, one afternoon while playing, Sal fell from a tree, her mother found her unconscious and carried Sal home even though she was eight months pregnant. Later that night Sal’s mother went into early labor in her house and lost her baby because the umbilical cord had strangled her baby girl. Sal felt guilty and responsible for her mother’s miscarriage. Sal believed her mother lost her baby because she carried her. On many occasions, Sal was the only one that could see Mrs. Winterbloom’s unhappiness in her family, since then she wondered if her mother was also unhappy in her life like Mrs. Winterbottom. She blamed herself for not paying attention to her mother’s feelings. The second main effect of abandonment that Sal experienced was confusion. According to Peter Gerlach, confusion is having many questions, feeling lost

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