Some parents ignore to teach their children when they were young. It cause many children don’t care their behavior and they will get the wrong worldview. I like this book because that is a good advice for children and parents, it can help parents teach their children keep a good behavior when they were young. How to listening to the other people, that is a serious problem for children, especially for parents. Now, more and more children don’t like to listen to the other people.
With a rapidly changing body and brain, adolescents seek out the independence they crave, while still not having the capacity or capability to truly be on their own. This can cause a great deal of imbalance within the parent-child relationship (Steinburg, 2008, p. 43). For some parents, adolescence is the first time they have seen any indication that their child is no longer that perfect, sweet baby that they once held in their arms. This often causes confusion, and is concerning to them. It is usually at this time that I will get a phone call from a parent asking for my help in dealing with their “out of control” teenager, and Tracy Freeland is no different.
There are many ways that we can affect our personality depends on who influence your life or identity. This is real important to people, even more important to young generation who just started to build their lives. Their personalities are immature, so it is important to who should they looking as a “role model”. If a person who really do not get along with their family, they might feel lonely and felt that he or she would not get enough love or attention from their parents, then that person’s personality could fact by their parents. So they might be coward, not confident about what they are doing, and maybe they do not know how to give the love or love the things.
Or how someone with authority cans can decide to turn their back on a child and locked them up. Children have been around violence much longer than they have been involved in a "normal civilized life". They are precariously being persistent of learning how to defend them self from harm because it's the life they only know. Under stress and strain most kids don't know how to handle situations of life. I don't believe they are trouble kids, I just believe they are kids seeking and searching for parental attention or someone that would love and care for them, even if is someone to direct and teach them the correct way of life.
As adolescents start to gain independence, understand relationships that work and do not work make it hard for parents to let them grow, but as the adolescent sees it, parents are trying to keep them from self-expression and trying to figure out how they fit into the world around them (Bass, 2009). Media does not help adolescents acknowledge success since the media portrays physical appearance as perfection and possessions as riches causing complicated issues among adolescents (Bass, 2009). As an adult we have all gone through angry days as a teen, but the one thing the author Lyman Bass (2009) explains in the article “Adolescent Anger Management” there are signs that are beyond usual. These signs are when adolescents become defiant by the request of others, is mean to parents and other adults who hold some authority. Another signs are adolescents who are loners, depressed, trouble with expressing emotions, have few friends, and certain events trigger them into violent behaviors.
Teens can be often tricky by telling the parents that they can trust them and they can be responsible in the result of getting their privacy. [Citation needed] Once that privilege is given, the child you knew before is not the same and once the privilege of privacy is given, it’s hard to take back because they’veRef?already lost control of their kids. [Citation needed] Teens should not have the right to privacy because of the danger of internet, drugs, alcohol, and also teenage pregnancy. To start with, the internet can play a dangerous role in teens’ lives. When a teen is given too much privacy, they tend to make plenty of mistakes involving the internet.
It also affects the relationship with other family members. Kids often distance themselves from everyone and do not include themselves in family activities. They feel no one could possible understand what they are going through. When it comes down to a relationship with the opposite sex, trust is often a big issue. Children many times also seek out a significant other that reminds them of their incarcerated parent to fill that void.
Parents are often show frustration at not being there and being able to help their children in addition to not getting to see them as much as the teachers do. Parents may be reluctant to express their concerns because of cultural beliefs related to the authoritative position of the teacher. Parents may also be unsure of how to express their concerns to the teachers. Research shows that parents provide a passionate feeling that is highly personalized and comes with a history and a future. During a power struggle between a parent and a child, you will see emotions seldom seen by two people.
The reason that spanking confuses them is simply this; parents are the example of the difference between right and wrong and all spanking is doing is telling the child is that every time somebody does something wrong they should be smacked for the mistake they made. Secondly, spanking simply installs a sense of "fear and resentment" towards the parent. The only result that comes from making a child fear the parent is just reverse what is trying to be accomplished; discipline. On top of fearing the parent, the child will also lose respect for their parent and make the relationship between parent and child become very weak. Discipline will not work if parents do not have a good relationship with their child This highlights how spanking a child will weaken the respect that is needed between child and parent.
They feel the need to because no one else will. That line of thought normally comes from having parents who constantly disapprove and ignore their children. They don’t feel like they can escape so some children turn to imaginary friends, others to bad behaviors, and others to self-love, or narcissism. A child being taken away from their parents does more to their mind than anyone can imagine. And children don’t know how to coop so they do the best the can.