Nate Smith Diana Reaves ENGL 1013 10/2/12 The Reality of Marriage with Kids Is having a functional, benefiting marriage feasible once children and their many needs become a part of a couple’s life? For Hope Edelman and Eric Bartels, two adults trying to balance work, marriage, and children, the task seems near impossible at times. Hope Edelman explains in “The Myth of Co-Parenting: How It Was Supposed to Be. How It Was” her expectation of having “shared responsibility” (Edelman 284). But actually raising a child single-handedly while her husband, John, is consumed with his work.
Many couples end up deciding that the woman and the children will take the males last name, because that it just how it has always been and why change the tradition. Many women find that having the same last name as their husband helps them feel more like a family, and a new name is an important symbol of the journey they are taking together. Personally, when I get married, I will gladly change my last name to whatever my husband happens to be, because following the tradition is important to me. Williamson gave her own experience on how not following tradition can affect everyone in the family when she stated “He’d just delivered the happiest news of his mother’s life - that her first grandchild had been born and followed up with a sucker punch to the heart. The baby was going to have my last name” (69) Williamson’s mother-in-law is woman who
Even today in some cultures monogamy and love are not seen as a necessary part of a marriage, men or woman can seek out other needs and not be ridiculed for it It is believed mostly in Western culture that “married couples should be best friends, sharing their most intimate feelings and secrets. They should express affection openly but also talk candidly about problems and be sexually faithful to each other. Emotional happiness seems the ultimate goal. A happy marriage is defined differently throughout the world, but only recently have the emotional and sexual needs of the partners become emphasized. Sell2 This seems unrealistic when compared against a historical world view especially how Western Cultures revere marriage.
Finally, Coontz brought forth if someone is not marrying for love but just for the status then what is the point of getting married. I do agree with her about this and also, the point about the media blowing the idea of happily ever after out of proportion by just believing that only true love will hold a marriage together that is false. True love can bring people together but would not keep them together, this is something that marriages cannot solely rely on it takes hard work and dedication to keep a marriage
There are many different reasons why couples cohabit today. Moving in with your partner is the next logical step in a serious relationship for many people nowadays. For some couples, it is a pre-marital step. Most couples who cohabit would like to get married one day. On the other hand, there are couples who have no intention of getting married, but enjoy the benefits of living together.
Sarah Yoest Pederson in her paper “A Family Of A Different Feather” reiterated the importance of respecting and recognizing the various family settings in the society. Now, I have learned that irrespective of gender, relationships can be established and sustained through effective communication, being open minded and by accepting the choices of others. First, through effective communication, people can learn a lot about each other’s family composition and what they desire in their relationships realized the importance of communications at my work place. I work for two women who are romantically attached to each other. Initially, I hated seeing both of them and made up my mind not to have any interactions with them apart from our job.
As I stated earlier Cherlin broke marriage down in three types, the first that he spoke of was the companionate marriage. This type of marriage is based on the companionship, friendship and love shared between couples. He spoke of the pride couples took in their rolls in the family, dad as the breadwinner and mom as the homemaker and caregiver to her children and husband. As transitions continued, companionate marriage became more of an ideal than a norm. The roles of husbands and wives became more open to negotiation, and a more individualistic idea on the benefits of marriage took shape.
Critical Thinking Final Examination 1-Choose a stereotype that you do not believe to be true. List the characteristics that compose that stereotype. Write a paragraph explaining why you don’t believe the stereotype is true. Gender stereotype - Traditionally, the female stereotypic role is to marry and have children. She is also to put her family's welfare before her own; be loving, compassionate, caring, nurturing, and sympathetic; and find time to be sexy and feel beautiful.
When Mrs. Pan decides to arrange a marriage for Lili she obtains a solid sense of usefulness. Mrs. Pan began to participate in her new world and by doing this she began to leap the culture barrier. Mr. Carpenter does not want to be a burden to his family. “I came to a decision. I want to go to an old folk’s home.
Thesis Marriages as well as living together both have valid similarities and differences. Both can be a union between two individuals that serves as a moral contract which involves commitment, financial obligation, and the willingness to spend a majority of your life with a person. Introduction Common "wisdom" says that living together in a "trial marriage" is a good way to determine if couples are compatible before marriage. Does this idea really work? What are the factors that lead to a good marriage and how can we know if the other person is right for us?