Coltrane and Adams 2008; Coontz 2006 stated that, romantic love is the perception key foundation to not just marriage, “mutual affection and sexual attraction” but is also to “companionship, fidelity and monogamy” which “men are still expected to be primary providers and women the primary nurturers”. Since heterosexuality plays the most significant role in the social construct of gender and marriage, when gay marriage is revealed the spouse is likely to be shock and will no longer want to be in the marriage or in some cases will keep the marriage due to some factors that will be mentioned later. Some gay spouses would go on without disclosing their real identity and live their marriage life as a normal heterosexual, some would eventually get caught by their spouse or some eventually would come out and disclosed their identity. “At this point the heterosexual/homosexual binary that characterizes dominant sexual notions and practices becomes starkly visible and conflicted” (Wolkomir, 2009). There are three research studies that consist of 45 participants, examining gay-straight marriages.
If ones pleasure is derived from sex with a partner of the same sex, and the deep love of a life partner is expressed to one of the same sex, then there cannot be anything wrong with that. The same biological urges that could lead to procreation in a heterosexual couple can be seen also in gay couples. A homosexual couple will go through lengths of artificial insemination, in the case of a lesbian couple, or adoption or hiring a surrogate mother in the case of a gay male couple. Denying the marriage of two people in love, by the ethical standards or our society is wrong. It is denying one the right to the pursuit of happiness.
It could be argued that Austen sees the concept of marriage as necessity rather than choice, which she examines and analyses through her characters and their respective partners. Each marriage in Pride and Prejudice has happened for different reasons, socio-economic stability, beauty, naivety to name a few. Can it be said then that marriage for one reason is better than another? Is marrying for money or social status wrong or immoral? Can a marriage only last if there is true love present?
Relevance Statement Marriage is a sacred bond which not only involves the couple but also the two families of the bride and the bridegroom respectively. Be it arrange marriage or love marriage, marriage is nothing different for both. Love marriage vs arrange marriage is just a question prevalent in minds of married couples who are not satisfied or are scared to live with an unknown partner for whole life. IV. Preview of Main Points Some of the benefits of arranged marriage are that : (a) It is more stable and successful.
In modern western culture, love and passion are considered very desirable and even the most important part of a marriage. In this culture love, sex and emotional companionship are supposed to exist exclusively between husband and wife. The pressure to conform to this type of relationship has been detrimental to the foundation of marriage
Love is perhaps the most actively sought moral objective of one's life. And though marriage is often thought to be the logical consequence of love, it is Oscar Wilde's contention in his satire, The Importance of Being Earnest, that love begets bliss and marriage thwarts this course of bliss. Algernon Moncrieff spends very little time falling in love and the rest of the time striving toward engagement. Wilde demonstrates through him that once one becomes intent upon achieving a goal, the individual's motivation becomes a matter of action rather than truth. Algernon is no longer driven by a moral objective; instead, he becomes intent upon achieving a societal standard.
For some cultures, arranged marriages are viewed as a social and economic necessity, the terms of which are agreed upon by the families of the future bride and groom. The question of whether the bride and groom are in love is not a priority. For other cultures, arranged marriages are viewed as something normal, however it is not something that is forced upon the people ofthose cultures. It is believed that if the two have given their consent then there is reason that they would agree to get to know one another and love will eventually grow in the marriage. The general beliefs in the Western culture are that arranged marriages are very restrictive and encroach on the personal freedoms of women.
She believed that women should be equal to men in relationships. Although Wollstonecraft had an idealistic view of marriage, Tweedy reinforces how marriage is far different from the ideas that we have. She describes elements of love which prevent true reality of what is being seen. Wollstonecraft gives the advice to women readers that they should consider their choices; is having a husband the right choice? Or is a lover better?
Firstly, when someone is totally devoted to their love interest it may be hard to turn a conscious eye to their imperfections and faults. She will be under the desired illusion that he is loyal, that he love her and would dismiss slightest suspicion of cheating. Idolizing their partner in their minds for long time would lead to a major breakdown when the veil of deception is lifted thus thought of being cheated on is too heavy and the reduction of self-esteem will cause the woman to be in large circle of uncertainty about her own personage. Furthermore, by returning to her abusive partner she is trying to prove to herself that she is able to keep them and resurrect their old bond, but mostly trying to resurrect her own self-assurance that she is still worthy. Forgiveness can also be a reason to stay, some people have big hearts and are easy to forgive due to kindness but that does not mean they will necessarily forget, the old bond will never be the seem and asking about the partners whereabouts will no longer be a matter of manners only but to assure herself.
Even just classifying these men like this is kinda crazy. She launches her argument against those who might claim that a once-widowed woman ought to become a nun. The Wife's argument moves on to be a defense of marriage, period. She insists that though those who choose to marry might not be as spiritually perfect as people who remain chaste all their lives, they are still fulfilling God's commandments. The major feature of marriage, for the Wife, is the marriage debt, or sex, which seems to be why she's so strongly in favor of marriage.