This had a huge effect on Conrad. With the lack of communication with his mother, Conrad feels that she no longer loves him. On the other hand, Cal, Conrad’s father, wants more communication with his son and is too over obsessive with his son’s feelings. All these conflicts create an ‘interpersonally distant family’.
A Struggle For Identity In the memoir This Boy’s Life by Tobias Wolff, Toby is continually attempting to reinvent himself for the recognition of others. As he and his mom travel to different states to run away from certain men or for the sake of money, Toby begins to change slowly. During this journey, Toby is left with no beneficial male influence. This causes him to develop few behavioral problems. For instance, since he does not get discipline by his mother, he does not know any better.
(Page 119) Now, he has nothing. The family he once had is now nowhere near him. He has lost everything that was the most important to him because of something that took everything away. Joe is now alone in a society the does not care about the injured veterans. Also, he is ashamed of allowing his family to see him the way he is.
Chris McCandless does not feel he belong to the upper class society his family does. He resents this community because of their value of money and power. Because of his disconnection, Chris feels as though he has lost his identity and sense of self. He also feels disconnected from his parents. Chris feels as though he does not belong because he found out that everything his parents had been telling him was a lie.
He did not learn social skills and did not developed attachments. His behavior during his first 12 years varied. His teachers viewed him as unruly and difficult. His peers scorned him and teased him about his unkempt appearance and smell. At home, he lived in fear of his mother and resented his father for not helping him.
He let go of a girl he used to like, got in a fight with his roommate, and got kicked out of yet another school. Either this or the fact that Holden can’t really connect with anybody would make him feel like this. He feels although he’s living amongst “phony” people and can’t really talk to anyone. He feels very depressed while at Pency because of his inability to connect with anyone there, or because he’s being kicked out and will miss it. Holden decides to stay at a hotel instead where he can relax and not have to deal with anyone at Percy anymore.
Joseph’s lack of support to the family triggered a divorce. His inability to overcome negative thoughts pushed him into depression and alcoholism. After the divorce, Joseph was denied a chance to be with his wife and children. He denied his children a chance to have a fatherly figure, and this is one of the contributions to his inner thoughts about his family. When he reflects back on how he was one time in love with his wife, he develops thoughts of having another sexual relationship as noticed by his attempt to date another woman without success.
Chris was always critical of his parents and their lifestyle, but that criticism turned to outright anger when Chris learned that his father had lived a double life with another family for a time. Chris saw his father as a liar and a hypocrite and he was never able to forgive his father. A recurrent theme in Chris' journal was a search for "truth", and he linked that search to the lack of truth he perceived in his family life. After graduating from college Chris felt the need to flee from his family and their expectations in order to seek the truth that he felt he had never experienced. To say that I grew up in a broken home growing up would be a gross misstatement.
He dislikes both his roommate, Stradlater, and his neighbor, Ackley, because they appear “phony” to him. He doesn’t have any close friends at the present time, but used to be close with a girl named Jane. He would play checkers with her, and comfort her when she was sad (33). Besides Jane, Allie, and Phoebe, Holden doesn’t appear to allow himself