The listener should say what they are feeling only if it is beneficial to the relationship or to the person seeking help. When a listener displays this quality of being genuine it is most likely the seeker will become congruent as they have probably spent along time denying their feelings or not been allowed to say what they are feeling, to be congruent is to take responsibility acknowledge your feelings beware of them, then start to deal with stuff. Unconditional positive regard is respecting the help seeker as a unique being or anyone for that matter, to my believe, accepting them for who they are, this does not mean we have to agree with peoples behaviour or agree to their believes, just to accept the person; is being non-judgemental. Along with the show of genuineness and unconditional positive regard from the listener the seeker will feel comfortable within themselves, develop trust in the relationship and begin to open up, explore and start to move forward. The third quality required within this relationship is to be able to Empathise this is not to be confused with sympathy or pity, which would be to show sorrow or sadness, this would not help the seeker to progress and move on.
Looking at it negatively, you become concerned, not with needs like hunger and thirst, but with your fears and anxieties. Love/belonging – Social Needs: After physiological and safety needs are fulfilled, the third layer of human needs is social. This psychological aspect of Maslow's hierarchy involves emotionally-based relationships in general, such as: o Friendship o Intimacy o Having a supportive and communicative
In keeping a faithfully open mindset relationships are built, you may even feel love. Love is the strongest aspect of faith because it never falters when it is true. Although the strongest aspect of faith, it is also the most difficult to develop. Love and faith can both have very positive affects on your future. Having people who actually care around you can give you the strength to accomplish anything.
I chose to contrast Erikson’s theory and the selective optimization with compensation theory. In Erikson’s theory he states that the final stage of psychosocial development theory is Integrity Versus Despair. Acceptance is relevant to achieve Integrity. Whether the outcome is good or bad, successful or disappointing, having good friends or bad friends; we should accept life as it is without being bitter or angry. With Despair, you regret your past decisions, you’re angry with the course of your life, and you feel that your time for achieving your “wanted” life is running short.
The fourth represents “esteem” or confidence, self-esteem, accomplishment, respect for self and others. The fifth, again the psychological, represents the highest need, but only can be achieved after the others (deficiently needs) are met. The fifth is called self-actualization, and consist of morality,
I believe if I have a strong sense of self-efficacy I can better help clients to develop a strong sense of self-efficacy if they do not have one. For example, a client may be struggling with what career to pursue that will help better support his or her family. Some clients prefer to pursue a protected career in which they were exposed to by family or friends. This may limit their options because his or her desire is influenced by their self-efficacy or the confidence he or she may have performing in a particular domain. If a client does not have a strong sense of self-efficacy for a specific domain, he or she will not consider it as a possibility.
Examples of security needs include a desire for steady employment, health insurance, safe neighborhoods and shelter. Belonging Needs These include needs for belonging, love and affection. Maslow considered these needs to be less basic than physiological and security needs. Relationships such as friendships, romantic attachments and families help fulfill this need for companionship and acceptance, we communicate to meet belonging needs by talking with others, listening and responding to what they say. Esteem Needs These include the need for things that reflect on self-esteem, which involve valuing and respecting ourselves, personal worth, social recognition and accomplishment.
Communication helps protect us from harm by using word of mouth, internet, and news media. The third level is the belonging needs level. People want to be accepted and needed by others, People needs each other to enjoy life, feel comfortable at work, and to fit into social groups. We communicate with others by listening, talking, responding, sharing, feelings, and working together. The fourth level is self-esteem needs.
Security needs are things like having a job, health insurance, to have shelter (such as a house) to keep you out of the environment, and also that you can live in a safe neighborhood. Now we are at the third level of the pyramid which is Social needs. Social needs are companionship and acceptance. Maslow measured these needs to be less important than physiological and security needs. Family, friends, relationships, community groups, and even religious groups could implement these needs.
Furthermore, love and belonging refers to the interpersonal relationship, in which relationships with family, friends, lovers, and others are drawn; providing humans with a sense of acceptance and attachments. Esteem refers to the need to be respected and accepted and, most importantly, the need of self-respect. People develop their esteem as they are recognized by others, gaining a certain level of social status and thus build their own self-respect. The last is about the self-actualization, in which an individual realizes his or her potentials. Because the human brain is driven by a basic instinct to survive, this need trumps all others, thus it’s easy to see how obvious biological and physiological needs, such as food, drink, shelter, warmth, and sex, formed the basis of Maslow’s pyramid.