In the times of knights there were rules when it came to “love” but as the years went on to where they are now we have begun to find love on our own and the rules and arranged marriages weren’t needed anymore. We have come a long ways to get to love the way it is now. However love always has the same foundation and people build off it however they wish to. This is where we are the same however we also share differences. All in all, the thing that separates love now and love in chivalric times is the time in between us, the technology, and the way people acted.
Almost all people think that getting married the one who he or she loves is natural. But there are some situations when someone cannot get married to him or her because it is socially unacceptable. The definition of marriage for different people means different things. Marriage has some forms, but nowadays the same sex marriage is the most discussed topic. So in this essay I’m going to compare the traditional marriage and the same sex marriage.
But, as Gatsby found out, love is like being on a battlefield and you have to fight for the person you love. Gatsby was madly in love with Daisy but when he went off to war she moved on. He didn’t necessarily get her back, but she did have an affair with him which lead him to believe he was getting his true love back. True happiness is one idea that can only be defined by each individual. Nobody really knows what true happiness is, but as long as each person is happy with themselves and their situation then they may have true happiness.
Finally, Coontz brought forth if someone is not marrying for love but just for the status then what is the point of getting married. I do agree with her about this and also, the point about the media blowing the idea of happily ever after out of proportion by just believing that only true love will hold a marriage together that is false. True love can bring people together but would not keep them together, this is something that marriages cannot solely rely on it takes hard work and dedication to keep a marriage
We all think love is a main purpose for living; that an intimate connection is inherent in all that we do, and without love, we cannot survive as a species. But what is love, and how do we know that we've fallen in love? First, let's begin with what love isn't. IT DEFINITELY ISN'T... Manipulation - "If you loved me, then you would..." (isn't love, but rather infatuation.)
Do you want good quality conversation, or meaningless quantity conversation? Good quality communication is really important in a relationship, whether it is a marriage, dating, or friendship. If you can get good quantity with quality communication in your relationship then nothing else could be more awesome. With the busy schedules of everyone today, that can wreak havoc on good communication in any relationship. “Romantic relationships begin with a lot of sharing and excitement, but as time goes on, children, elderly parents, exercise routines, volunteer work and even hobbies can push the relationship to the back burner” (Schoenberg, 2011) I can relate to this article on the self disclosure in a relationship.
Unfortunately, many people in modern society marry for the wrong reasons, often for substantial financial gain or social climbing which will benefit them at a later stage in life. This essay will discuss whether or not arranged marriages still represent the “true” meaning of love, or are merely an unwilling duty forced upon a couple by exogenous family pressures. Arranged marriages tend to be a cultural tradition passed on through many generations. Many argue that in modern western societies, attitudes, particularly towards women, have evolved greatly and arguably now override previous traditions. People from areas where arranged marriages are in practice are often encouraged to learn to love their other half.
Needless to say, I am in full agreement that self-disclosure in a marriage is a vital part of a successful and happy marriage. It is as the old cliché states “to know one another is to love one another.” I now understand how people fall in love with their spouse all over again. They re-connect and re-learn all about that person. Schoenberg states that men prefer gestures of affirmations rather than verbal like women do, but I have found that I like the gestures as well as he does, It provides comfort and solice. It is stated that not all people fit into the generalization of the study of self-disclosure, but I find that my husband and I both fit into that
Is Survival the Greatest Virtue? True love never dies. Love is an intense feeling of deep affection, love is powerful, and love is the greatest force that governs all of existence. The love for one another can be a lit up journey as well as a dark road. The power of love can force people to act the way they’ve never acted before.
The article, “Can We Talk” by Nara Schonberg, talks about the role of communication in happy marriages and how one can use her findings to strengthen their own relationships. I can relate this to my own relationship on the fact my fiancé is always pushing to have quality conversations with one another with all distractions removed. I however do not believe genders should play a role with communication. According to the article, “Can We Talk by Nara Schonberg, Communication is the basis of any functioning relationship. With time comes the breakdown of communication, as many couples assume the other understands.