If there was no self- disclosure in a relationship I think that it would get boring never learning anything new about your significant other. Our text states that self- disclosure builds mutual trust between the participating parties. (Sole, K., 2011). Building mutual trust is an important part of having an intimate relationship and making an intimate relationship last. In my personal experiences with self- disclosure I have experienced several similarities among genders.
Facing what researchers have found self-disclosure and what it looks like, the importance of it and how it’s related to approval in relationships, gender differences and similarities, and where the writer fits into the generalizations regarding gender will determine that sharing personal feelings with others can build and maintain healthy relationships and marriage regardless of differences in gender. Can We Talk Article We say a lot of things to our partners each day but really are saying nothing of substance. Think about how many conversations you may have with your significant other but find out later that your mate knows almost nothing about who you are or what your goals are. Terri Orbuch of the Institute for Social Research at the University of Michigan, knows all too well about married couples and their lack of effective communication and affirmation in marriages (Schoenberg, 2011). Nara Schoenberg presents her article Can We Talk?
A women’s value is to get married one day with at least a husband that is the same or higher position than her family. ‘“I am not romantic, you know, I never was. I ask only comfortable home; and considering Mr. Collin’s character, connections, and situation in life, I am convinced that my chance of happiness with him is as fair as most people can boast on entering the marriage state’” (119). Charlotte is a realistic woman, she decides what the best for her and her
Self-Disclosure, Gender, and Communication Jocelyn Linkhorn Com 200 Interpersonal Communication Reginald Doctor October 8, 2012 In speaking in general in regards to the article of self-disclosure in relationships I can’t say that myself can relate to this review of the article on communication of a happy relationship or a intimidate relationship because I am not married nor am I at the moment in a relationship with anyone at this time. Even though I am not in a close relationship I do have male friends that I communicate with and I can get a general idea from talking with them of what I would want in a spouse and also having a good relationship with a happy marriage. I do agree with the relationship expert in this article regarding communication in happy marriages that people can have a prolong conversation and talk about nothing but if couples are compatible and have some things in common they can discuss a lot of areas that cultivates the conversation. I do and can relate that self-disclosure is important in a relationship, because this is how you get to learn more about the other person from the feedback that you get back from them verbally and nonverbally. Although self-disclosure can have many positive benefits, such as finding out that you have something in common with another person, it is also risky.
Coontz emphasizes “marriage has been displaced from its pivotal position in personal and social life, and will not regain it short of Taliban-like counterrevolution.” I agree with Coontz about the change of traditional marriage improving our society. I personally like changes that have occurred to traditional marriage such as the shotgun wedding, the equal division of Labor between men and women and facility of divorce. In the past when marriage had a different meaning, a shotgun marriage was the only option for a woman if she got pregnant, but now we have the ability to say no and marry freely. Due to the diversity of marriage you can now marry the person you connect with and truly love. Shotgun marriages lead to divorce or unhappiness in the relationship.
The Helmer’s marriage is, on the surface, a very happy marriage. Nora and Torvald are loving and affectionate towards one another. Torvald addresses Nora with a myriad of pet names that she seems to enjoy. One could argue that these names are condescending, but Nora doesn’t seem to mind. It is only when one hears pet names from someone one does not love that they are condescending, and until the climax of the play, Nora genuinely loves Torvald.
He has a good relationship with anyone he meets. He does things that would make the person he is with very happy. He also plans those romantic evening with that person. Then being the middle child he thinks that his older brother gets all the glory and that his younger sister gets everything also. At times being a middle child, they feel that they get left out of many things.
I have never been a very emtional person or opened up to many people about my feelings. I do not want a sentemental, love toast that would end up making my wife cry. This would not be a traditional wedding, which is exactly what I want. I want a wedding that is memorable for the rest of my life. I would enjoy a comical version of a toast from Daniel.
A marriage needs more than a ten minute conversation as well, because in order to determine what is to be done with a marriage and to prevent any problems within the marriage requires a lot of talking. Let us say that you are not happy with the way that your spouse is talking to you, what are you suppose to do? Well based on the article ‘Can we talk? Researcher talks about the role of communication in happy marriages’ by Nara Schoenberg, it states that: A researcher named Terri Orbuch, says that a good starting point for couples seeking to reconnect should follow her ten minute rule, which would be to have a conversation with your partner or spouse on certain topics like what is your favorite book, best friend or dream vacation for as little as ten minutes a day, because according to her research couples were much happier and less likely to divorce. (Schoenberg, 2011, paragraph 17) In my marriage, I cannot relate to this article at all, because all of my marriage problems are related to his family members, and them not liking me.
Finally the men didn’t think much of women for doing things that they could. Most men married women for their inheritance, childbirth, appearance, housekeeping and were expected to be married by their families. I think the suffragists campaigns were important but not as important as what happened during WW1. Source one shows Joyce’s opinion so it’s not a solid fact so it might not be reliable as she could be bias to the suffragists. But I believe that the suffragists did help women win the vote by showing they can do it in a calm and peaceful way.