It is then repeatedly used but often has a damaging effect on the person. This can be identified as being deliberate or intentional behaviour that has a clear, definite or probably negative effect. People are more likely to have a self-defeating or destructive manner when either there are threats made to their egos or when they have low self-esteem. When people have low self-esteem they are more likely to be susceptible to having depression, anxiety and emotional distress, which are problems that are usually directly related to low self-appraisal. There are many examples of self-defeating behaviours like, being needy, guilty, envious, angry, obsessive, rebellious, addictions, eating disorders, procrastination, controlling, gossiping, self-doubt and depression.
There are many different types of personality disorder which all separate into three different categories, these categories are; suspicious, emotional and impulsive and anxious. An example of a suspicious personality disorder is paranoid disorder, some one who suffers paranoid disorder will find it difficult to trust others, find it difficult to confide in anybody even close family and friends, they may watch people closely looking for signs of betrayal. An example of an emotional and impulsive disorder is histrionic disorder, if you suffer from this you are likely to be easily influenced by others, be dependant on the approval others and feel uncomfortable if your not centre of attention. An
They include, the change within oneself discovered during conflict due to inner turmoil and personal vengeance, the possession of power which leads to take advantage of people’s vulnerability and the adversities faced by individuals due to an immense sense of fear in the society as an aftermath of conflict. It is in the nature of human to be controlled by the wants and desires of our mind, but sometimes the inner turmoil and personal vengeance within one’s intentions can result in corrupt human nature. Vengeance is usually the root of conflict and the problem is that sometimes personal malice can lead an individual’s intention to grow into such immorality that they often tend forget the fundamentals of humanity and justice towards the society. Similarly, in the play, ‘The Crucible’, Arthur Miller portrays the extent that personal vengeance can have on a society, where the ‘townsmen’ accuse their own for personal gain. This is portrayed through Abigail Williams’ character as she seeks revenge on Elizabeth proctor for sacking her from her job at the Proctors’ and as a consequence demolishing her from the entity of her desires, John Proctor.
Like a child, Holden fears change and is overwhelmed by complexity, but he is too out of touch with his feelings to admit it. Instead, he spends much of his time criticizing others. Ironically, he is often guilty of the sins he criticizes in others. Holden is clearly fearful of adulthood, but instead of acknowledging that it scares and mystifies him, he condemns it, claiming that adulthood is a world of superficiality, hypocrisy, and “phoniness.” Whereas, childhood, on the other hand, is a world of innocence, curiosity, and honesty. He explains that adults are inevitably phonies, and, what’s worse, they can’t see their own phoniness.
For example, the 'bad boy" type of guy would for example be in an argument with a girl, thus being the douchebag the guy is, ends up making a girl cry or simply just upsetting her. But in doing so, the guy can simply set up and apology, (which is something that a bad boys do not possess usually when you think about them) thus making them actually appear to be a more sensitive guy. In other words, you were mean to her, therefore you upset her; because you upset her before, you later sets up an apology, making you look more of a nice guy from the sudden leap of the bad guy you were, making you actually a sensitive guy who can actually still be a stuck up bad boy. On the other hand, if a girl always knew you were a nice, sensitive, caring guy, and one day upon a blue moon, you simply slip your mouth and accidently
When the level of emotional pressure becomes too high, punishing oneself as a form of communicating the unhappiness can make someone fell alive when feeling dead inside or when it’s too difficult to talk to anyone. Bullying or discrimination is one of the self-harming causes among teenagers. Bullying is a repeated and deliberately hurtful attempt to humiliate someone. It is difficult for people being bullied to defend themselves because, most of time, the person bullying is stronger than the person bullied. Bullying can be physical (hitting, pushing or damaging others’ property), verbal (name-calling) or social (excluding someone, spreading rumors).
A high level of anxiety can leave a person unable to fully trust a person when trying to form a close, intimate relationship. The explanation for high levels of anxiety can even be partially due to the fact that, said person, holds a lack of confidence and believes in his inadequacies over seeing the positive side of his attributes. Certain fears like feeling that one is not good enough to be loved or fearing one's partner may discover their faults can lead to this kind of level of anxiety as
Depression is when you are experiencing one of those feelings that won’t go away. Having this feeling will affect your day to day life, school, work, sleep, social life etc. Most commonly people can’t control their negative thoughts, which makes there depression get even worse as they get even more negative thoughts. Loss of interest is another symptom to depression, in most situations the person with depression won’t notice this but their friends/family will. There is also a large amount of self-loathing this is when you’re feeling worthless or guilty and are also harshly criticizing your mistake, choices or fault.
Whether or not we grow up in an obviously dysfunctional family, most of us are exposed to some powerful, sometimes gross and sometimes subtle formative experiences wherein we feel that there is something about ourselves which is not okay. We react, by making a usually unconscious decision to compensate for, control, or avoid aspects of both our inner and outer worlds. Thus our codependent false self is born and our real self goes into hiding. An example of compensation would be “I’ll show them what I’m capable of so that they never doubt my worth again;” and so relationships with people, work, and/or studies become compulsive and competitive. An example of an attempt to control would be making myself so powerful and so needed in a relationship, that my partner would have great
Some people believe with superior and disrespect towards people. People that behave this way normally missing trust, belief, or faith in themselves. They repeatedly have uncertainty about their value of life. Individuals that battle this disorder take chance in endangering themselves to lack of success. They are quick to put the blame on others for their failure instead of taking control for their actions (Kassin, Fein, & Markus, 2013).