Breakdown of Relationships

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Discuss theories and research into the breakdown of relationships. (24marks) There are two main theories to a relationship breakdown; Duck (1999) and Rollie & Duck (2006). Duck (1999) suggested that there were three main reasons as to why relationships break down, 1. Lack of skill, 2. Lack of stimulation and 3. Maintenance difficulties. Reason one, suggests that people with poor social skills result in poor conversationalists. Duck (1991) said that people then perceive these people to be uninterested in relating to them. This results in a breakdown of the relationship before it has started. People who have problems making good conversation are often rejected when looking for a relationship as getting to know them can be hard and similarities and differences can’t be found. Two, lack of stimulation, according to the theory by Thibault and Kelley (1970) they said that we look for rewards in relationships. So if we are lacking the rewards in a relationship then it is likely to result in a breakdown. This is supported by Baxter (1994) he said that lack of stimulation, I.e. boredom or belief that a relationship is not going anywhere, then this is often a reason as to why relationships end. The final reason, maintenance difficulties, this is when some relationships only work though seeing them regularly, so going to university might put a strain on a relationship as the daily contact between the couple has been decreased. Shaver et al (1985) said that while romantic relationships can be strong enough to survive decreased daily contact, maintenance difficulties may become overwhelming and this can also result in a breakdown. Holt and Stone (1988) contradicted this theory and suggested that even if people have long distance relationships such as university, as long as they could reunite, there was little decrease in their satisfaction. Rollie and Duck (2006)
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