Even today in some cultures monogamy and love are not seen as a necessary part of a marriage, men or woman can seek out other needs and not be ridiculed for it It is believed mostly in Western culture that “married couples should be best friends, sharing their most intimate feelings and secrets. They should express affection openly but also talk candidly about problems and be sexually faithful to each other. Emotional happiness seems the ultimate goal. A happy marriage is defined differently throughout the world, but only recently have the emotional and sexual needs of the partners become emphasized. Sell2 This seems unrealistic when compared against a historical world view especially how Western Cultures revere marriage.
What are the factors that lead to a good marriage and how can we know if the other person is right for us? Cohabitation among younger groups of individuals before choosing to marry have a less success rate of continuing a happy life together than that of people who wait and live together after they have married. Traditionally, husband and wife roles are established during the course of the relationship no matter if couples are married or not. However, this can be a difficult transition, and it appears that couples who are comfortable with living together without long-term commitment tend to be more comfortable with the idea of divorce. (Marriage[->0] 2010) Neither pre marital living arrangement nor marriage necessarily implies equality.
While we do communicate, it's obviously not the type of communication that is required for us to have a healthy and happy marriage. After reading the article, I have learned that “how was your day, did you get the chance to talk to this person, etc.” is in fact not the type of communication that is required for a healthy marriage. Yes, it is communication but it is not quality communication, the type that is required to maintain focus and longevity in a marriage. Quality communication? Who would have ever thought that the day to day discussions were nothing more than mere communication?
These kinds of relationships are normally voluntary and formed for an individual’s happiness rather than for the happiness of a family. This therefore means that we may expect to find differences between these cultures, especially when it comes to romantic love. Levine Et Al had studied love as a basis for marriage in 11 countries. Participants were asked whether they were willing to marry somebody who had all the qualities they desired whom they did not love. The American respondents were reluctant to marry somebody who they did not love as only 14% said that they would agree to marry.
This is because once you are able to take and give constructive criticism, then you will be able to support them, and if you cant give them feedback it will be impossible to be a supportive co-worker. It is more important to have an ability to raise and observe professional standards than to
Marriages occur between childhood or college friends, office colleagues, neighbors and acquaintances. These relationships are a result of “chemistry” between two individuals. Such marriages have a good chance of success because they arise from mutual attraction but only if a person has chosen wisely. Often, there is a mismatch between social statuses, educational qualifications, financial resources and life’s goals and aspirations of the two individuals, which after some time becomes a cause of friction and eventually leads to divorce. Arranged marriages were once very common but today this institution mostly survives in eastern countries such as India and China.
This is coupled with a total neglect of the other end of the spectrum, the evaluation of the positives of heterosexual relationships in marriage. Meeks and Stein would have us believe that all things being equal, the dynamic of same-sex marriage has no negative influence on the family values and society. They even go so far as to assert that gays and lesbians are more likely to strengthen the traditional family values. Missing in this article are discussions and analysis of traditional family values of the heterosexual
Fewer people are marrying for numerous different reasons. There’s a lot less stigma surrounding the issue of marriage in comparison to marriage in the1950’s for example. It’s no longer expected. This means that people now feel free to choose the type of relationship they want without scrutiny or judgement for their choice. The decline of secularisation also contributes to the decline in marriage rates.
It is important to keep a balance of the important things in one’s life otherwise, weaknesses can be developed that shadows over a person’s natural strength to prioritize. A balance of the important things in one’s life is what allows personal success to be achieved. Successfulness is the ability to seize new opportunities and explore new paths in life. Balance is the key to success because when there is balance in one’s life there is a cut back of stress, which makes room for the ability to thrive; and a person’s ability to thrive is what carries them to their personal success. To be successful is to understand what is important to you, to recognize your weaknesses without hiding behind them, to strive for balance as well as open new doors in life.
Even though some women don't have everything they want, they do have the same basic rights that men have. In Stanton's time, a married couple was seen as one person, but now a married woman can still be seen as an individual. They can vote, have a job, and be independent – things that a woman in Stanton's time could never have done. They can also act out more behavioral wise. They do not have to stay in the house all day with the children and obey their husbands.