Success has more equal vision and less prejudice than the positive thinking theory promoted by some people. I don’t have to try to change my thinking about myself. “The important thing is to love your negativities, not to judge them, and to learn to use them to raise you up” (C.-N. Chu, Thick Face-Black Heart). The only thing I should do is free myself from the trap that says, “Change comes before success.” If I think I will win, there are chances I can. If I think I will lose, I positively will.
These rules are plainly common sense and in reality they really are applied into our daily lives. If others did this more there would be a lot less problems nowadays. If one does not know these rules and you do the exact opposite of what it’s telling you, you will be okay. If you do the exact opposite of what is said you will most definitely have problems. Nowadays people don’t like when other people are in their business.
Though, I have good control on my emotional displays, at times I find certain emotions sticking for a little time in my conscious memory. I am an eternal optimist, thus tend to view things in different lights. I react less on events that others find serious, thus to some, I may give a non-serious perception, one lacking concern, and one lacking the intellect capacity to judge situations. At the same time, people reporting to me find my behavior to their advantage. They feel empowered as they find me reacting less to many negative feedback about them, or meddling less with their day-to-day plans, and actions.
However, I always feel that they won’t learn if not given a chance to try and improve themselves. I tend to also be very confident in my own work. I trust myself first and foremost. I’m not close to constructive criticism or getting help form others. However, I like to be a leader because I feel that at the end of the day, even if I do incorporate the ideas of others, the end results should come from me in order to reassure myself that
Assumptions should play no part in critical thinking but unfortunately they do, and often. I know as humans we all make snap judgments, but the idea is to push aside our assumptions and judgments when we think critically. Thinking critically is a skill that you either have or you don’t, the ones who have it will ultimately be the ones to thrive in their respective fields. Though it may be difficult to avoid making assumptions, as professionals we have no choice. We can keep our assumptions to ourselves but unless we consider all aspects of the situation we are not thinking critically.
I believe this rings true to my personality. It seems like I am a person who is more willing to accept feedback rather then give feedback. I seem to be more of an introvert at times although I’m very outgoing and open-minded. I am very responsive to others giving me feedback about my self given the circumstances that it is given in a positive manner and from someone who truly knows me. However, I will hold myself back from giving my opinions to others about themselves, as I do not like to come off as pushy or over bearing.
This is known as the “Character Ethic”. In the long term, it is easier to be motivated by such principles of integrity and goodness. Your character should not be based on a false public image, hypocritical attitudes and behaviors, or superficial techniques for human interaction/manipulation. That would be known as the “Personality Ethic”. If your principles were based solely on the “Personality Ethic”, you may achieve short-term success, but people will eventually see through your dishonest motives and cease to trust you.
Proactive people always find an optimistic alternative when things go wrong. Covey states you can choose to not be miserable. You do not have to empower the weakness of others who are trying to control you, take control of your own life and do what you feel is best. When you are proactive, you want to act and not be acted upon and stay true to your human nature. Reactive people however always blame everything surrounding them for excuses of why they are not responsible or cannot do something.
Most times conflict starters are designed to put the other person on the defensive, but by your reasonable and thoughtful restatement of the issue, you will almost always put your aggressor a calmer mood, and then you can truly discussing the issue at hand. In most cases, people begin there discussion with a conflict starter statement because they believe your response is going to be equally argumentative. By restating the argument in more neutral terms, however, the
However, I am very self-reliant and posses accountability. I am not afraid to pursue something I want and able to take everyone’s thought into consideration, even as I live out what is required of me in the group. My weakness are that I can be tempted to expedience and entitlement. If I am not paying attention I can be easily tempted to base my actions on what is political or advantageous rather than what is right or just. I can also persuade myself that my role in the group gives me special privileges inconsistent with good character.