Most kids do not want their parents to divorce. A bad marriage can become worse when kids are involved, especially during a divorce. Kids are always the people in the middle watching and listening even from a distance. The children in a bad divorce case are asked to choose a side if not one would be chosen for them. Some kids feel betrayed by their separated parents.
Child Abuse and Neglect: Summary. Child abuse is a crucial part of the law in todays society. When asked to define child abuse what do you think of? I think of a child being beaten to near death or maybe even deprived of food sources that they need to survive. The child could also feel a sad disappointed feeling because their parent won’t give them the attention a child should be receiving or a child could just be being neglected all together possibly by the parent just not caring, but I will tell you all about these things in my paragraphs below.
Abusive parents who use hitting, neglecting basic needs, and other action that lower an individual’s sense of self-worth, have a negative impact on the health of a child. Nurture also affects the growth of humans, because studies show that babies who receive affection from their parents will develop from children to adults who are happy and competent. It is proven that children who lack early emotional attachments or grow up fearful and expecting to be hurt will have a difficult time relating to peers. Nurturing their children the most important thing that parents can do. A parent’s
Fear of confrontation with resourceful parents overwhelms their desire of alerting child neglect. As a result children may continue to live in negligent despite public knowledge. Children with disabilities have in general a larger risk of being abused (predators seek out the weakest). Knowing this, both families and teachers have a very low threshold for alerting Child welfare. The situation may improve if the issue of children’s welfare were put on the agenda, in media as well as in school.
The divorce can also cause an unhappy environment for the children. The children may not like the person that their mom or dad has chosen to be with. This can cause conflicts between stepparents, parents, and children. Children would also have the mental problem of choosing which parent to live with. This can cause a child to be confused and stressed because of the love the child has for both parents.
I will also be referring to Cooley’s “looking glass self”, and several other ideas from texts that I have been examining during my research. The problem with child abuse is that it commonly goes on while the behavioural patterns of the child being abused are ignored. Emotional abuse for example is “abuse abuse is inflicted by ignoring or dismissing a child's emotional reaction or by shaming and humiliating a child.” (Odhayani, A, Watson, W & Watson, L 2013). One could argue that a girl from a very young age who is already exposed to media and the ideologies that society drills into her mind about having a perfect body, would then be subject to an eating disorder or she will refuse to eat all together (Odhayani, A et al 2013). This is true because in mainstream society and popular culture, you can look around at television advertisements for example and literally see that most women being advertised have “desirable traits” that are highly unattainable for youth at such a young age.
Such observable changes when children are away from their parents are crying, refusal to interact with other children, oversleeping during school days, getting home early after schools, fighting with other kids and pretending to have nightmares whenever they sleep alone. These behaviors could be avoided when the child is young by inviting young kids at
This could be a struggle because some parents live their dreams through their children and that pressures them to do more than they are capable of doing. More stress is being added to that because they want to have friends and make their parents happy and it can be hard for them to make time for studying and hanging out with friends. Most times these teens have a fear of failure and are under a lot of stress. If they feel like they have failed at something that their parents would be disappointed about they could feel like they aren’t good enough or just have unhealthy thoughts about themselves and they could end up being depressed or will do unhealthy things. Peer pressure is another challenge teenagers face.
* Stage 1 dealt with Trust and Mistrust. One year old babies he considers to be ambivalent about trusting and not trusting their parents. They tend to trust their environment and themselves when their requests are met. This process in return leads to faith confidence in the inevitability of the environment and optimism about what’s yet to come. Alternatively frustrated babies become doubtful, apprehensive, and overly concerned with security.
“It is overburdening that seriously inhibits a child’s freedom to separate normally and to lead a healthy adolescence.” (Wallerstein, Lewis, and Blakeslee 9). After a divorce parents tend to rely very heavily on their children. This can create positive or negative results. It is helpful to a child to feel important and more grown up. In moderation, the tendency for divorcees to rely on their children can foster self-sufficiency and maturity.