How do you perceive Jan’s effort to convince Ken to forgive her? Based on what you have learned in this chapter, suggest two ways she might more effectively seek Ken’s forgiveness. At first I think she was sincere, but then she started throwing things out there to try to win and justify why she told someone else. Two ways she might be more effectively seek Ken’s forgiveness is one, try to understand how he feels and not throw anything in his face about what he has done in the past, and two, don’t get offensive when he’s trying to ask why she did it. 3.
Question 1: Using the chapters on language and emotions to help frame your answer, suggest two ways Ken could open this conversation more productively, beyond clearly using his emotions with “I” language. Ken could open this conversation more productively by “Taking Responsibility for Your Thoughts, Feelings, and Issues” (Wood, 2007, p. 239). Instead of Ken just start off by attacking Jan, Ken should ask Jan for a logical explanation of why she told Shannon about Ken’s past with Katie. Ken should of started off with “I am upset that you betrayed my trust by disclosing personal information” or “Is there a good time we can talk”. Asking Jan instead of just assuming Jan did it for other reasons is not fair to Jan because Ken is not listening mindfully to what Jan has to say about it.
Perfect,” “Marsha (the client’s mother),” and so on. Personifying the critic helps the client begin to externalize the self-accusing voice. You want him or her to experience the voice as something coming from outside, rather than as a part of the normal flow of thought. It’s easier to fight something that is perceived as external. It’s also easier to make the critical voice ego dystonic, something the client eventually rejects as “not me.” At the same time that you are identifying and naming the pathological critic, you can also introduce the client to his or her “healthy voice.” The healthy voice is the client’s ability to think realistically.
Tannen says that a “breakdown of a sense of community is partially to blame for the argument culture” (Tannen chap. 23). This shows how Tannen really wants our culture to get better for the benefit for all. She’s just not writing for fun, she’s serious with persuaded her readers. The problem now, is that people feel too much of themselves.
Also, she believes that if a person voices their opinions, they will ease their troubles because saying things out loud helps people reinforce their beliefs and cope with their problems. Once a person knows what they want, they have to be reminded of their motives and this is why Lorde believes that covering up scars eliminates the effects of the erotic.
Wright also, narrates confrontation to articulating empathy for an individual in assisting them to make healthier choices. On the other hand, the volume misses the mark to mention the awareness of biblical rebuke and the right the right time to use this kind of confrontation. If confrontation is used too quick in the relationship it can cause damage to the counselor’s relationship with the counselee, but then again the type of confrontation necessary is also a significant concern that ought to be
Fools Rush In In the movie Fools Rush In, there a few examples of various steps in maintaining a healthy relationship. There are also some steps that are not followed properly. A couple of the steps that are followed correctly include: Be aware of what you and your partner want for yourselves and what you want from the relationship; Be willing to negotiate and compromise on the things you want from one another; and Do your best to treat your partner in a way that says, "I love you and trust you, and I want to work this out." Steps that failed to be exposed in this movie include: Let one another what your needs are; Realize that your partner will not be able to meet all your needs; Do not demand that a partner change to meet all your expectations.
The event that occurred in Madison, Wis. is used to further engulf the reader in constant sympathy with the use of, “It’s one of those small things that can make you feel small” (6). In stating this OPINION, Quindlen, in hopes to convince the reader, weakens her argument by positioning the article in a less effective second person point of view. By stating, “Love and commitment are rare enough”, Quindlen struggles to execute one final stab at the reader’s heart (11). This statement, though vague, consists of content Quindlen attempts to seize the reader’s opinion with, in order to counterpart that of her
Rogers though that everyone holds a different concept of self, called the ‘ideal self’ this is how we would like to see ourselves, what we admire to be. For example some girls may see Cheryl Cole as an admirable figure and they would like to be her but when we sort through our differences, it can make us feel sad and angry. Rogers went on to create counseling called unconditional positive regard to help an individual seeking counseling to feel more positive about themselves. It’s counseling where the therapist should help the individual to feel better about them. Throughout this method of counseling, the service user begins to accept themselves for who they are and begin the gain a sense of worthiness.
This chapter teaches readers a lesson to know how to forgive and forget. I felt dazed because it isn’t that simple to forgive and forget, but Mrs.Merriweather made it sound so simple. The pain that’s been caused in a person’s heart will take a