During adolescence, however, girls often take their anger out on their mothers. And in turn, the mothers feel ill-equiped to manage their daughters’ anger. The movie Mothers and Daughters (Bessai 2008) reflects these themes. This story outlines the lives of three Mother-Daughter pairs. Brenda is the typical “invisible woman” who is unexpectedly discarded by her husband following a life of sacrifice.
She also experienced a lot of mental abuse from her mom, who seemed to cut her down more than anything. When it came to her relationship with Melchior, she just seemed to go with the flow. She kind of got sucked into doing things that she, possibly, may have not done if she would have had a closer, more open relationship with her mom. Wendla longs to feel loved and at one point, even confuses the physical abuse that one of her friends experiences at home as real love and begs Melchior to hit her. She was a very lost child that needed more attention on the home front.
As Hannah becomes a mother herself and a mother being the first model of love that the children experiences, she emotionally detaches herself from Sula as she was detached from her mother. Sula is able to shape her ego and separate herself from her family after she overhears her mother’s conversation: "You love her, like I love Sula. I just don't like her". Hannah not representing an admirable empathetic mother figure makes Sula assert control over her identity through the inability of connecting with other people as an adult. She is able to find her autonomy and independence denying responsibilities and attachment to anything.
They choose the first opportunity because they know, from earlier experiences, that making a scene or start arguing does not pay in cases like this one. Sheena also knows from earlier experiences that she sometimes need to use a kind of converted psychology to make her young boys do what she want them to do. The angry woman and her daughter is a family who is one of a kind - like it is an unusual way to upraise kids. The mother uses rant and rave over her child and furtive slaps. She do this because she is panicking; Imagine you do not have much money, but this month you had a bit left as you could use to take your daughter to the zoological garden.
Most importantly, there are two kinds of life views - the mother’s perspective understands the difficulties of life and the struggle that is part of being successful in life, and the daughter view of life only inside of the cocoon of her own feelings and emotions. It is not until the fullness of time that young Jing Mei better understands that for all of her disobedient words and actions, she would have been better served to be more patient and understand her mother’s wishes in her youth. As the short story begins, Jing and her mother engage in frequent disagreements because of her mother’s
Divorce is becoming more prevalent in our society and unfortunately affects every single person involved. What's more, children are highly affected by divorce and some remain affected throughout their entire lives. No matter how smoothly the marriage ends or how many relationships are patched up, the children remain victims in this epidemic spreading throughout the nation. Though school-age children cope better with separation between parents, there are still many problems that they face. They too are afraid of punishment and abandonment or the possibility of being replaced.
Even though she views America in a positive way, she still keeps her Asian manners and finds it hard to accept the American way of parenting children. She is very critical of other cultures, such as her daughter’s husband, John, and his Irish family. She also critiques the way her daughter Natalie raises her child, Sophie. On her time spent with Sophie, she decides to implement her own ways of parenting. She spanks Sophie as she tries to discipline her, and by the end of the story when Natalie and John find out, they ask her to move out of the house and her contact with Sophie is forbidden.
Ana is a young woman who is at the beginning of experiencing life. She has strong family values, wants a good future… and is a little overweight. Her mom Carmen, throughout the movie, tells her to lose weight because if she did, she would look good. Ana does not listen to her mom, she loves the way she is, and this is a myth she proved wrong. Her mom continues to remind her how overweight she is and says things like “Look at you!
Confidence is Key “We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot“ (Roosevelt). The former first lady explains that people gain confidence by the experiences they travel through and to use more confidence, people must accomplish goals they have never thought to achieve. In the novel, The Color Purple by Alice Walker, a vulnerable, uneducated southern teenager, Celie, is being abused and feels she has no voice. Her only love is for her younger sister, Nettie, and their bond of sisterhood is eternal. Their father sells Celie, and the sisters are separated to grow up into two completely difference worlds.
Jing-mei wanted to be her own person so she was determined not to try hard at the piano lessons. Jing-mei says to her mother, "You want me to be someone that I'm not, I'll never be the kind of daughter you want me to be. "(Tan, 51) This external conflict between Jing-mei and her mother serves as a premise for the remaining conflicts in this short story. Another example of conflict, an internal one, is that of Jing-mei's gloomy, sad feeling after she realizes that she cannot become the great person her mother wants her to be. Jing-mei thinks to herself, "After seeing my mother disappointed once again, something inside of me began to die; I hated the tests, the raised hopes, and failed expectations.