American families would view single parenting as a threat to a family structure. Doing everything by themselves with no one else to blame but themselves is one of the most difficult things a single mother can struggle with. As time progresses a single mother discovers she is capable of doing so much not just for their well being but for her children. They quickly learn how to adapt and over come. While many single mothers worry too much or regret decisions during their children childhood they are satisfied with the result and the out come of there children by the actions their children make after they grown out of their childhood In “I stand here ironing” a mother depicts her first child to have a bad early childhood by making the wrong decision not by choice but simply what got handed to them in a urban world.
Lucas Ocampo Mr. Rucker English G Mother transformation analysis Through the Tunnel not only shows how a kid learnt a very important life lesson, but also how a mother learns to become less overprotective over her child. In this story a mother goes with her kid (Jerry) to the beach during summer and she decides that he is old enough to go spend the day by himself. As much as she hates leaving her son on his own, she knows that she should not be over protective but it’s a challenge that the mother faces throughout the story. The mother was very doubtful on whether to let Jerry spend the day by himself without any adult supervision, she was worried for her son’s safety. Many things could go wrong if her kid was by himself, like having sunstroke or even breaking a bone and nobody would be there to help him.
Erdrich uses character to show that blood relation doesn’t mean love. The birth mother of the narrator shows no love to her child from birth. When asked if she wants to try and save her disfigured child, she answers with a swift “No!” However, Betty, the janitor at the hospital, nurses the child, Linda, and decides she would keep it with out even being asked. Betty and her husband Albert begin to try to raise and perfect Linda. They wake her up early and help her stretch her legs in hope that they will one day be straight/normal.
The mother in the story, “The First Day” by Edward P. Jones, is supportive of her daughter because she goes out of her way to make her daughter’s first day of kindergarten memorable and special. Despite a lack of money in the family, the mother buys her daughter new clothing. She spends extra time on the daughter’s preparation and is determined to send her to a school that she deems acceptable. When analyzing the first page of this short story, the reader gets the sense that the mother and her daughter have little wealth. This may be due to a past husband’s departure or the mother’s illiteracy.
And the next word out of anybody and I’ll be their mother too” (Bambara 77). Here she shows that she truly is tough and she is not just talk. The girls back away in fear, too intimidated to respond to her challenge. This story is narrated by Squeaky, whose main responsibility in her family is taking care of Raymond, her mentally disabled older brother. She explains that many people insult Raymond, referring to him as her “little brother,” but she tries to hold herself above the taunts (Bambara 75).
Her psychological trauma begins with the brutality of the way her first daughter was taken away to die. “She was not prepared for what happened last time… Kavita felt her budding joy give away to confusion. She tried to speak, to articulate something from her thoughts swirling in her head” (page 6-7). This quote shows that she was at first happy with the birth of her first child, but her confusion of the moment left her with no response. She could only admire her child and she could not understand why her husband could not see
The Influence of Grandparents In the stories “Inspired Eccentricities” and “Spirit,” both by Bell Hooks, the main characters really take after their grandparent(s) and learn a lot from them despite what their parents might think. In “Inspired Eccentricities,” the daughter really looks up to Baba and Daddy Gus even though her mother tells her to ignore most everything that they say because she doesn’t want her daughter to end up like them. In “Spirit,” the daughter gets all of the spirit that she has from her grandmother, and since the dad does not like his kids having any spirit, he tries to break her of her spirit whenever she or any of her siblings does something wrong. “Inspired Eccentricities” is about a child who really looks up to her grandparents. She explains everything about her grandparents to us and how odd they are compared to normal people, but how much she loves them for that.
Kids are highly influential especially at a young age. A child who sees a father abusing his mother might grow up and find it acceptable to beat on his own wife and kids, alas the cycle continues. Society also play a very big part in this, we now see and accept divorce and broken families as a new normal. Since many fathers generally are not the major caretakers of their kids after a divorce, bad feeling are formed with the kids. These negative feelings are due to dads not regularly seeing and interacting with their kids.
Sibling rivalry usually continues throughout childhood and it can be very frustrating and stressful to parents. When the kids fight, parents usually punish the older child and take the side of youngest child. It makes that the older child loss the relationship with their parents. One of the most principal’s problems that affect the relationship between siblings, it is that sometimes parents do favoritism only with one child and it makes they can harm and even destroy sibling relationships. For example, in my case, when I was child I was the darling of my mother because I always got good grades in school, my mother said that my sisters should be like me because I was doing my homework on time and was very studious.
The divorce can change their life especially parents and also their son. children when separated from a parent will experience a lack of love both. children will respond with aggressive as a result of their parents' divorce 2. parents are the determinants of happiness for their children children need both their parents in educating and teaching them about the world when it became a teenager. if no parents their child's life can be severely affected if they are susceptible to bad things 3. negative effects occur in children due to acts of parents who do not think their child's feelings. children need their parents' attention with primarily still under age.