Unfortunately, the opposite can be said about an absentee father. From an infant’s birth weight to a young adults sexual behavior, every aspect of a person’s life is affected by his or hers fathers absence. The impact of a missing father is felt before the child is even born. Even from birth, children who have an involved father are more likely to be emotionally secure, be confident to explore their surroundings, and as they grow older, have a better connection with their peers. These children are also less likely to get into trouble at home, school or in their neighborhood.
“Disgruntled American parents forget that in this country, their children are able to experiment freely with ideas; without this, they will not be able to think or to believe in themselves (199).” Ho uses his own education in Indonesia as an example. He was taught to be completely obedient, and was permitted to do something only when he was told. They were “models of dedication”, and stated there were absolutely no alternatives when studying. However, his 6-year-old son, raised in California, was able to express ideas in a very young age and received a good grade for his wit and humor. Many children in the world may have not had the chance to make creative decisions, and are enforced strict guidelines for a “proper” education.
He says that although he was not like a son to him, he liked Andre and that because of his connection with him it helped to understand his own son better. He connected well with Andre and “could talk about anything under the sun” with him, something he could not do with Coelho 2 Cal. Typically, it’s the parents that have the hardest time with accepting there child is gay. It’s not unreasonable to say that in starting a family, parents want their children to grow up and start a family of their own and when you have a gay son that cannot be, in a traditional way, possible. This is just how Cal’s father felt about Cal.
Now, he is comfortably a member of the upper middle class. Additionally, even though there were challenging times during his childhood, Richard believes that his upbringing only had positive effects on his life. As to the current state of the social classes today, he feels that people expect things to be handed to them instead of trying to provide for themselves. He does not begrudge the upper middle class. He believes that they must have worked hard for what they have.
After Chris Gardner was evicted from his home, his mind evolved on the world around him. The thing that saved him and his son, was Chris’s intelligence with numbers and people. His mind set him to a higher goal in life; happiness. Many things we succeed in require our minds to be used properly. As said by our third president, Thomas Jefferson, “Our greatest happiness does not depend on the condition of life in which chance has placed us, but is always the result of a good conscience, good health, occupation, and freedom in all just pursuits.
And a lot of the time, we can’t even remember much of them. Many people would say that going through hardship makes us more solid adults, but not everyone that faces adversity becomes stronger, some do in fact weaken. Your adulthood is just an extension of your childhood experiences. "The difference between men and boys is the size of their toys” is a very accurate saying when it comes to psychology. A person will try to fulfil his same childhood desires when he becomes an adult in a way that is acceptable by his society and culture.
“Manhood” by John Wain focuses on the slightly negative sides of pacing, even though the father may not be doing what he does to put pressure on his son. “The Happiest Days of Your Life” written by Penelope Lively, is telling us how childhood actually can be. “Growing up” is represented in both stories, as a period in your life where other people affect you and adjust you into being who you are, and in that way making every single person unique. I chose to analyse and compare these two texts, because they deal with the theme “growing up” in quite similar ways. E.g.
Penis growth starts a bit later but continues for a longer period. Some boys move through puberty quickly while others worry about their lack of development. These variations can be difficult for slow developers to handle. It's important that adults reassure them that their rate of development is not related to final physical potential. Adolescence for boys usually begins later than for girls and usually occurs around fourteen years of age.
It sounds like Charlie’s mother is his only family. Charlie is about to enter the teenage period, and in this period it is very important to feel like a part of the group. You don’t want to be the one who stands out. In this situation he is doing things that he knows that he’s not supposed to do, but the need to be close to his friends is forcing him. Socializing is more important to Charlie, than being a thief.
Later in their friendship, we start to see that Lord Henry is merely stirring thoughts that Dorian already had inside of himself and was just afraid to let them be known. Lord Henry is also the person that leads Dorian into his New Hedonistic ways. It’s relevant that Dorian becomes aware of the new Hedonism in chapter 2 when Lord Henry says, “No, you don’t feel it now…there is absolutely nothing in the world but youth!” Dorian starts to realize that he is a good-looking man and he should start to take advantage of it. Dorian Gray’s eyes become further open to the New Hedonism when Lord Henry begins to say that the only good thing to do is seek out the pleasures in life and to not live by morality. One should do what ever one thinks feels is good.