Unfortunately, Carver’s love toward his father was put in writing after his father’s death. Both Robert Hayden and Raymond Carver expressed heartfelt love through their poems. Next, Hayden and Carver showed the sense of regret because they never fully understood the sacrifices their fathers made for them. In fact, Robert Hayden was extremely disappointed because in his poem he writes, “No one ever thanked him.” This made him reflect on his relationship with his father; how little he thanked his father for providing for him and his family. In the same manner, Raymond Carver found himself
The theme of Family Loyalty is expressed in Foyle’s war in a number of ways. Family Loyalty is expressed when Foyle reads a letter from his son who is serving in the army and by Ian Lane when he brings his sons body back from Dunkirk. Family disloyalty is expressed when Milner’s wife Jane cannot handle the fact that her husband has a fake leg, the scene in the kitchen expresses to the viewer that Paul and Jane Milner’s marriage is breaking down through quick camera shots, tense conversation and camera angles. In this episode, Stanley expresses deep family disloyalty. He doesn’t seem to care that his mother died.
His last line emphasises this regret but also acceptance that his son has to go through life feeling sharp wounds.He wants to protect his son, it shows the connection and bound between father and son and the closeness of their relationship. Scannell lost 2 sons and this may be inspiration for this poem. He couldn’t protect his own children from the harshness of the world. The poem uses time phrases a lot; ‘last, ‘and then’, ‘in two weeks’, ‘would often feel’; this adds a narrative feel to the poem. Another feature that adds to the narrative feel is the way the poem is written in the first person.
It is also a critique of the father’s coarseness and drunkenness. The author’s relationship seems to have been a complicated one. The father was a demanding parent, who required perfection from his son who idolized him. When his father died of cancer, when Roethke was in high school, the boy was left with unresolved and conflicting emotions about his father (Napierkowski R, Ruby M. 1998). “My Papa’s Waltz” seems in some respects to be an attempt on the author’s part, to come to terms with his feelings.
All of the symbols used are connotations. The horse could connote to the protective mother, the compass could connate to the boys lost relationship with the father, and the torch could connate to the possibility of the re-uniting of the father and son. ‘Not looking that way, ahead. He is watching the man’ this quotation shows us that the boy wants to be like his Dad, he wants to be able to talk to his Dad and have him back into the family, and for the Dad to except the boy as his son, this is further emphasised by the quote, ‘watching Dad. Watching what Dad is.’ As the boy comes downstairs, Jim – his mother’s boyfriend – he asks ‘Is it all in working order?’ and the boy ‘forced himself to put the torch into Jim’s big out-stretched hand’.
What was your response to the journey the father and son endured? Father and son relationship BP 1 The tenderness and dedication of the relationship between the father and son. How look after each other (it’s not just one way) and how the boy tries to protect his father – in his dying days, not telling him why he was crying when he came out of the water, ‘I am the one who has to worry about everything’ BP 2 Contrasted with the mother’s relationship and her unwillingness to ‘carry the fire’. BP 3 Contrast between their relationship and how the majority of other people left on earth treat each other. 2.
Freud would claim that Dahmer was fixated in his phallic stage when he gave his dad the birthday card. Although he was sending a nice message to his father, the last line of the verse that says “I love you to death” shows hostility towards his dad. This is known as the Oedipal complex, where children manifest erotically tinged desires for their opposite-sex parent, accompanied by feelings of hostility toward their same-sex parent. Dahmer’s Oedipal
Armitage regularly refers to the harmonium as a ‘he’ supporting the fact that it could be his father. The word ‘sorry’ could represent strong feelings due to its many connotations. In the poem, the speaker is saying sorry as the harmonium is leaving. This could show the reader that the speaker feels he has disappointed him or perhaps could show regret from the speaker about previous treatment of the harmonium. In addition, it could show that the speaker feels he didn’t spend enough time with the harmonium.
The boys mother finally enters the poem, with her face frowned, most likely due to the mess they had created. If this were a poem about abuse, normally a mother’s love and willingness to protect her child would have intervened and stopped the abuse. Safely assuming that this is an autobiographical poem and that Roethke is reminiscing about his father, when stating “The hand that held my wrist/ Was battered on one knuckle” (Roethke 10), could be over-read or misinterpreted if the reader is ignorant of Roethke’s relationship with his father. Reothke’s
My Papa’s Waltz The tone in the poem can be described as resentful, protective and loving. The title of the poem is an example of the irony used throughout the poem to emphasize the attitude of the persona, being the boy , towards the subject of his father. Stanza one: ”The whiskey on your breath could make a small boy dizzy; but I hung on like death; such waltzing was not easy. These lines show the mournfulness of the persona as well as the love he had for his father. Line 3 is symbolic of the persona holding onto his father’s memory and not wanting to let go of the short time they spent together.