Disorganized relationships. Disorganized children don’t know what to expect from their parents. Children with relationships in the other categories have organized attachments. This means that they have all learned ways to get what they need, even if it is not the best way. This happens because a child learns to predict how his parent will react, whether it is positive or negative.
Difficulty with reading and writing If a child is having problems with reading and writing this could cause concern. This could be recognised, as a child would be at a delayed rate to the rest of his/her peers. This could affect the child’s /young person’s behaviour/social development...Low self esteem and loss of confidence may be a result. With peers of the same being more advanced ridicule and bullying may result Learning to communicate is one of the main skills a child needs to help them develop in all areas. They can quickly fall behind from peers of the same age.
The idea of a predictable and unpredictable life events involves generalisation. For some people issues like divorce or redundancy may be predictable, but other people may not have expected to be divorced or lose their job. Predictable life changes One event that is often predicted is when our children start school/nursery. There will be positive learning from this experience as the child will then learn to socialise with other children and make new friendships with them. The child will learn to share toys and develop a better vocabulary by listening to others talking.
Children begin to learn the ability to trust others based upon the consistency of their caregiver(s). If trust develops successfully, the child gains confidence and security in the world around him and is able to feel secure even when threatened. Unsuccessful completion of this stage can result in an inability to trust, and therefore a sense of fear about the inconsistent world. It may result in anxiety, heightened insecurities, and an over feeling of mistrust in the world around them. Early Childhood (2 to 3 years): Autonomy versus shame and doubt .
Erikson’s Timeline PSY/203 February 20, 2011 Erikson’s Timeline Brief explanation of Erikson’s eight stages of life. The first stage of Erikson’s eight stages of life is trust verses mistrust. During this stage the infant develops a bond which links him or her to their care providers and establishes a sense of security in the world. Stage two known as autonomy versus shame and doubt, is when a toddler begins to form a sense of an autonomous self. Next, is stage three initiative versus guilt parallels Freud’s phallic stage, describes young children as struggling with dynamics of power and sexuality.
Insecurity can also mean fear of abandonment or fear of being replaced. Parents may also fear that questions or criticism will put their child at a disadvantage in school. However, in most cases, the provider is the secondary attachment for the child. Guilt is another emotion parents sometimes may feel because the parents are not there as much as they should be because of work or other obligations. Parents are often show frustration at not being there and being able to help their children in addition to not getting to see them as much as the teachers do.
The reason that spanking confuses them is simply this; parents are the example of the difference between right and wrong and all spanking is doing is telling the child is that every time somebody does something wrong they should be smacked for the mistake they made. Secondly, spanking simply installs a sense of "fear and resentment" towards the parent. The only result that comes from making a child fear the parent is just reverse what is trying to be accomplished; discipline. On top of fearing the parent, the child will also lose respect for their parent and make the relationship between parent and child become very weak. Discipline will not work if parents do not have a good relationship with their child This highlights how spanking a child will weaken the respect that is needed between child and parent.
There are a handful of parents in this authoritative world which do admit to their mistakes, like mine, sometimes. However, they are still not always right. Being right and thinking that you're right are two different things completely. If a parent keeps thinking he is always right, several problems will occur. If the child is powerless to the situation, or is in no position to conduct an argument, the child would be mistaken, resulting in another two possible outcomes.
Actually, a kid often desires to become a person like his mother or father. So bad behaviors of parents lead to bad results on their children. If parents often argue with each other, children may lose their belief in family and life. It also creates feelings of insecurity and fear when they hear their parents bickering. In addition, children will learn to argue with each other the same way their parents do.
A child treated this way learns to see themselves as unlovable and others as rejecting, and they tend to be apprehensive about relationships. A dismissive attachment style is one in which a parent/caregiver is disinterested in, rejects or abuses a child. Children who develop this style do not accept a parent's view of them as unlovable, unlike a fearful attachment. They think others are untrustworthy and they will develop a positive view of themselves, but have a low regard for others and relationships. An anxious/ambivalent style is more complex because it is fostered by inconsistent treatment by the parent/caregiver.