The nature of conflict shows that conflict can either push people away or bring them into having a closer, more comfortable relationship. Many people try to avoid conflict and try to find a way around it – even if this isn’t the right thing to do. Without conflict in a relationship can mean individuals cannot express their true opinions, thoughts and feelings for example; when an argument in the family arises, without the skills to negotiate and deal with the conflict, there will never be a positive outcome. Conflict comes in many different forms- political, religious, interpersonal, family, all of these deals with issues that arise due to difference of opinion or belief and are an inevitable part of human life. There are a wide range of causes as to why conflict occurs.
Many times people do not thing before they speak and often times the things that come out of our mouth can be very abrasive or offensive to others. If this type of negative communication continues, it will eventually lead to a conflict situation. One of the many reasons that I say communication is the key to all successful conflict resolutions is because communication ties into every concept that we have discussed. For instance, face saving comes from some sort of ineffective communication. I say this because face saving is when someone is trying to lessen
(Borkar, 2010, p.1). Even the best couples run into relationship problems once in a while. Conflict is part of the human tapestry that we all deal with at one time or another (Warta, 2008, p.1). Relationship problems are nothing but a few bumps on the road of life and one have no other option but to cross over them. Relationship problems are not just limited to a couple, but they also occur between father and child, brother and sister, and between friends (Dating Women, 2010-2011, p.3).
Communication is important in all relationships as it allows us to share our interest, concerns and support for each other. Effective communication is based on the way we talk and listen, how we respond as well as our body language. All too often the signals we send are not those we intend to send. Tannen explains “women are often told they apologizes too much. The reason they’re told to stop doing that is that to many men, apologizing seems synonymous with putting oneself down”(para 4).
Crash Scene Conf Interpersonal Communication Instructor Laura Massengale July 31, 2012 Crash Scene Conflict Having a relationship with anyone is hard. There are all kinds of variables that can come into the equation. And learning how to handle this through interpersonal communication can be difficult but with the right tools and the right desire it is easy to see how we could form a better way of dealing with one another in our interpersonal relationships. According to our text(sole,2011) “When you first form any kind of relationship with another person, the relationship tends to be harmonious. Both people are usually cautious about what they tell each other and how they say it, and they make a conscious effort to present positive information about themselves and to avoid conflict”.
It's easy to believe that we all see things the same way and then get derailed unexpectedly (McKee, 2009). If a person begins starts a conversation with a conflict starter statement, one of the most effective counter moves is to say something like, "Let me see if I can re-state your concern to make sure I understand it thoroughly and then address it to your satisfaction." You accomplish two goals when you counter your antagonist with a restatement of his or her conflict starter. Those goals include 1) softening the conflict-starter with a reasonable interpretation of the person's concern but in more neutral terms and 2) a reasonable restatement will almost immediately diffuse the conflict-starter and allow a discussion, rather than an argument, to follow (Chandra, 2005). Most times conflict starters are designed to put the other person on the defensive, but by your reasonable and thoughtful restatement of the issue, you will almost always put your aggressor a calmer mood, and then you can truly discussing the issue at hand.
It must be something we can ultimately become emotional about. It’s in our nature to have strong emotions and these emotions may lead to a conflict. Most conflict is over what we are told not to debate over, what we believe needs to be acted against. People see problems and situations; emotions are than triggered and depending on how great an impact the emotion has on them they may decide to act against it. This could be simply just voicing their opinions, thought and ideas, or on a larger scale the situation could trigger a greater emotion and push the person to act against it physically an example of this could be a war, a battle or an argument.
If interpersonal communication is used effectively and wisely, there should be a strong marriage with good communication. While having strong interpersonal relationships do not lead to a happy marriage, being verbal and communicating often on a daily basis may lead to a strong marriage and may have certain barriers such as having effective interpersonal interactions, the impact of gender and culture on interpersonal communication, and words have the power to create and affect attitudes, behavior, and perception. Being verbal and communicating often on a daily basis may lead to a strong marriage because gender and culture have an impact on interpersonal communication. The way we address each other has something to do with our gender. Depending on gender, we may communicate differently.
The purpose of my speech is rather simple; to clear some of the most common fallacies that encircle the practice of an arranged marriage. To begin, I think it is essential that we define what an arranged marriage really is. An arranged marriage is one in which families take a leading role however, the parties have the free will and choice to accept or decline the arrangement. Since couples in arranged marriages come together as a result of their extended family and community, they certainly think of their relationship as part of something bigger than just the two of them. Now the problem is the concept of an arranged marriage is often misconstrued with the concept of a forced marriage.
Since both partners in a relationship need to be able to express their needs and preferences without the fear of being attacked either verbally or physically, young married couples must read articles that give advice on how to improve their relationship. In the first article, “Man to Man, Women to Women” Sherman and Haas point out that “misunderstandings often develop that lead to major fights.” This may occur most of the time when both partners have poor communication. One major reason this happens is because “men and women like to talk about different topics.” Not having the same interest in variety of topics between couples, may lead to miscommunication. Ranging from different topics, females tend to lean towards on topics of “problems, family, health and reproductive concerns” where men tend to talk more about “music, current events and sports.” Men and women like to talk about different topics but they may disagree with each others ideas. At times, some young married couples may be married for 2-10 years but they might still be “intimate strangers” which is a greater problem for a relationship.