If effective communication is not present in a marriage, then the relationship will suffer and slowly weaken. On the one hand, to have an effective communication with one's spouse, one should try to be as open as possible by revealing all emotions and feelings. There is nothing wrong with a little over the top appreciation which always works and is the best way to foster open, loving authentic communication, for example, using “please” or “thank you so much for doing that!” On the other hand, we have to avoid being inauthentic as we must not cover up our feelings and not trust our partner to be mature enough to manage their response to "no". What is more, focus on the negative, and being impolite, as well as a win-lose attitude that pride ourselves on being a pit-bull, taking things personally, finger-pointing, finding fault and needing to have the last word is also a maker of this lack of communication. As Zygmunt Bauman says in his book Liquid Love “We belong to talking, not what talking is about .
Finally, marriages make the partners bond harder to break. Marriage brings a family structure, and nothing is more important than family. On the other hand, cohabitation has limited privileges. It allows partners to have unstructured ways. For example, if your partner gets sick, you have no say so in what decision is made.
We need an option, and being optimistic may give us false promises or facades to see one thing and create inability to be resilient with the other available options. Being realistic is also applicable in our relationships. When relating to people, we can always see good things within our friends, yet similar to all things, humans are not perfect. The realistic outlook can help us understand human imperfection and not overestimate the relationship so that it can’t let us as down as not being able to move on at all. There are cases where our loved ones pass away or they are far away from us.
People will often ask what makes a good or long lasting relationship. In truth there is no one answer, what works for some will not work for others, it’s about finding the balance that suits the both people. At the beginning of a new relationship, the excitement of being in that relationship helps us to not see the things the other person does which may cause annoyance. At this stage in the relationship both parties find themselves faced with everyday realities which means they have to work at the relationship to find and maintain a balance. When couples are faced with life changing events or illnesses the balance changes quickly and they will find themselves in the difficult position of facing their own feelings and fears while trying to support each other.
The two generate an interesting debate; however they might lose their credibility because Robert brought the fact that Jacqueline was married which is not job related and could be discriminatory to unmarried applicant while Paul he continually refer about Sonya’s enthusiasm and could be the selling point but this is not also offer any substantial reasons for her preference. One thing that I observed for the two is that Robert and Paul have a very good relationship – when they do have disagreements they are understanding and accepting of their differences and compromise when necessary. Robert doesn’t think too highly of the swinging bachelor persona, but it hasn’t affected job performance – anyway, it’s diversity that makes life
Communication in Happy Marriages Patrick Thompson COM200: Interpersonal Communication Instructor Debra Austin May 20th, 2012 I believe that communication is very important in not just marriages but also when you are dating. If you do not know the person that you are dating or married to then I believe that the relationship would be setting up to fail. I can say that my fiancée and I have decent conversations but I am pretty sure that there is a lot more that we could learn about each other. Due to the lack of conversation between my fiancée and me early on in our relationship, there were hardships. After almost coming to a breaking point we had to learn how to conversate in a way that didn’t come off as hostile or not actually hearing
She was dean on about the fact that people do not live happily ever after. Graham also claimed that love could be nothing more than a biological experience, a rush of different chemicals, which make people exhibit their behavior. Being that many people believe that love is something that is totally out of their control, Graham’s belief seems to hold some truth. In “The Future of Love,” Barbara Graham discusses the union of love and marriage, and how it they fail to coexist. Graham claims that people are drawn to believe that love and marriage should naturally go together, but she didn’t consider the fact that people get together solely based on the physical aspects of things.
Occasionally, despite a counselor’s best efforts, some clients fail to act in their best interests and negatively respond to all counseling interventions. These clients are often called oppositional, reactionary, noncompliant, intractable, and unmotivated (Dowd, 1989). You can not make someone tell you something they do not want to. Forcing an issue or trying to push a client into telling you something will only make them want to be more reluctant from sharing. Being understanding, empathic, and listening to the client helps build the relationship and give the client the opportunity to want to trust you enough to tell you what you need to know.
Members must overcome the need to protect themselves. One way to tell if you have trust in members they do not hold back, air dirty laundry, and admit their mistakes or weaknesses. If there is a lack of debate this indicates absence of trust. Dysfunction number two is fear of conflict. Teams that are lacking on trust are incapable of engaging in passionate debate about key issues.
This is the real test of love for most couples. This is when you should really take notice of what kind of problems you had before. Don't expect your partner to feel guilty. If the marriage was meant to work it will work. If you have MS your children have probably already figured out that something is wrong before you tell them.