Her style is always a bit more indirect. How does she try to get Bailey not to go to Florida? Not by saying, "Well I want to go to Tennessee," but by trying to scare him with reports of a criminal on the loose, called The Misfit, and guilt trip him about taking his children there. Through the rest of the story we see the grandmother using the same tactics again to get her way. Such as when her son Bailey does not want her to bring her cat Pitty Sing on the trip.
I assume that she wants a divorce from her husband but because of the role that society has placed on her, but she is unable to get one because she is very dependent on him. It sounds to me that she is jealous of her male friend who is looking for another wife. It was him and his situation that she was thinking of that brought her to the conclusion that she herself wants a wife. Her situation leads me to believe that during this time in history women were not meant to show signs of aggression, jealousy, or anger because it was a mans world. In Brady’s eyes a wife is a basically a slave at home who cannot have a life of her own.
I believe that when they first got married there was some kind of love in their relationship, but when they realized they could not conceive a child Don Elias blamed his wife. Even though it was most likely he was the infertile one, he treated her as if all she was good for was to take care of him like a maid. This is what made her a hard, bitter old woman. Dona Matilida believes it was her fault, and feels guilty about not being able to provide him with a child he so greatly desired. This caused her to turn a blind eye to what he was doing around town with other women.
She is a lair, manipulated her family, hypocritical and judgmental. In the end, the story suggests she died with divine grace but who can know that for sure? Did the Grandmother want forgiveness for her sins? The story does not lead us in that direction. Up until the very end the Grandmother appears to be trying to save her life any way she can.
I wouldn't take my children in any direction with a criminal like that aloose in it. I couldn't answer to my conscience if I did. "(137) The second thing we learn is that whenever something runs up against the grandmother's will, she tries to have it her way. "She was seizing at every chance to change Bailey's mind. "(137) Notice that she never does this directly or confrontationally.
Mrs Linde has had to work hard and was not afforded love and children which she longed to have. She took care of her mother and brother as her own but still desired more. Once her circumstances had changed she set out to acquire that which she had lost. When Mrs Linde is introduced in Act I, we can immediately see she is a woman who has been through a harder time and worked hard to have a meekly accommodating life. She is more insightful of her surrounding than Nora Helmer.
From the beginning when we were first introduced to Dee, we find that she has changed her name to Wangero saying that Dee is “dead” because she didn’t think her name, Dicie, had any cultural significance and so she choice a name she felt suited her more. She says she couldn’t bear being named after people who oppress her. She has no connection or respect with her family. This is sad because she doesn’t like who she once was. Although she has learned a lot from her schooling and has a better knowledge than her mom & sister, I feel she possesses this know-it-all attitude about what heritage really is.
Lily is raised in a tangled web of lies only to discover all the answers by running away from home, not only does this event resolved her and her father’s broken relationship; but she is also given the opportunity to mature around supportive women she needed all along. When she arrives at August’s house and realizes that it holds a connection to her mother, August explains to her that she understands why she came… but that she also thinks she will eventually want to return to her father’s home. “I know you've run away - everybody gets the urge to do that some time - but sooner or later you'll want to go home.” (Kidd 79). When her father finds where she had run off to, he finally provides Lily with the answer and truth she had always wanted to know but never wanted to hear. “The truth is your mother ran off and left you.” (Kidd 276).
The unstable Grandmother in A Good Man is Hard to Find Flannery O’Connor’s A Good Man is Hard to Find is a short story of a grandmother that fits into the Southern Gothic tradition. The grandmother touched him on the shoulder. The Misfit jumped back as if a snake had bitten him and shot her three times through the chest. This is a story of a family’s vacation that was tragically ended by a murderer and his gang after an interfering Mother/Mother-In-Law/Grandmother tries to insist that the family not to go to Florida but go to Tennessee instead. It was in fact her own reinforcement that prompted the family to stray from the main path in search of some false Misfit.
Lancelot comes to save her and she gives him her heart, which broke her image as a person. She was not herself and because of it she died. The Lady of Shallot stepped out of who she was and because of it she no longer respected herself. The mirror described represented her image of herself and it was shattered when Lancelot entered her life. The description of the people’s perspective goes from visual to auditory for the reader to see it from a different view, to see what the other people saw and hear what the other people heard.