Lust is something that can be turned into love. It just takes two true people to make that work. Two people that can find themselves looking into each others eyes wondering what tomorrow will bring is what makes you fall in love. Love and lust have very different meanings. You see that love is more durable than lust.
This type of love tends to occur in those with low self-esteem and those who gain confidence in pleasing their love interest. Mania and agape love are similar in that they both have the ability to develop into a very intense and unhealthy relationship for both parties. In both instances the parties involved have the ability to lose their sense of reality. The styles of love that have been most prevalent in my life are logical love called pragma, and friendship love called storge or philia. A love that develops from a friendship usually prevents a lot of disappointments because you already know a lot about that person.
Romance is the seeking of passion, which will lead people to sacrifice almost everything including commitments, obligations, duty and even other relationships in search for passion. Romance has to be a key part of romantic love, but by itself is a selfish projection of our feelings onto another in the relationship. True love abandons all of the ego’s desires and seeks to find the appreciation of another’s value. True love is not just romance, but a true desire to serve and affirm the one we love. In the Night Waitress, romance or passion is exactly what the waitress is missing and is wanting when she says, “There’s a man who leans over the jukebox nightly pressing the combinations of numbers.
She goes through all the reasons why love is better than riches and provides true happiness even if the time you have is short. As she steals away her hour of lovers bliss, she tells the reader how she would choose each small moment with her lover over any amount of money or comfort. In the end, she concludes that “love spins gold, gold, gold from straw.” Each poem makes reference to love and danger, restriction, the physical body and sensation, and time. The depth of emotion around these topics is intense but handled very differently in each poem. In ‘Hour’, the love is passionate and sexual.
The Differences of Love and Infatuation Love and infatuation, two very different things yet they are confused quite often. For a while most people can not tell the different between the two, both can dominate our thoughts and emotions. Jenijoy La Belle writes in “Loofah Is a Man Splendored Thing” that infatuation is in some ways a form of insanity, but ultimately different from love which based on common desires. She makes this conclusion by thinking of infatuation as being illusory and vapid, and also gives many examples of infatuation being by nature irrational. Love however is mutual and realistic, while infatuation requires neither.
Grimm vs. Disney Fairy tales are typically those stories that people read to children that introduce fairies, mermaids, or enchantments of some sort and have the usual “they lived happily ever after, The End” at the completion of the tale. The original Cinderella, written by the Grimm Brothers, was a fairy tale that portrayed the usual types of magical events but in a darker way. Unlike the Grimm version of Cinderella, the style of Cinderella done by Disney, keeps the fairy tale sweet and sincere or in other words, rated G. “The Grimm Brother’s included a greater standardization of language, the elimination of sexually oriented elements, the addition of Christian elements, a consistent tendency to change mothers into stepmothers, and in some cases an intensification of violent content” (Osmiere 4). The Grimm’s style of writing tells more of a dark, gloomy type story within the scenes of the tale, whereas Disney presents everything in a “sugar coated” way. The Grimm Brother’s were none less but accidental entertainers who were often cruel in their fairy tale writings.
Cinderella ends up getting the prize (marriage to the prince) based on looks alone. Most fairy tales follow this general concept: pretty girls who don’t do much get the prize in the end. Lieberman also argues that for boys, it is the bold and active ones that win whatever prize is available, which follows the ideas of traditional gender roles. Lieberman makes a strong point throughout her essay that, “Marriage is the fulcrum and major event of nearly every fairy tale” (325). What Lieberman is trying to stress is that fairy tales always have an emphasis
They are love and hate. Both can cause you to do crazy things, yet they are opposites. Love is an emotion that lifts people’s spirits and makes you cheerful. Hate can start fights and leads to unhappiness. Though these two emotions are complete opposites, they are also related.
This is true because in order to be in a romantic relationship, there is not a required amount of commitment necessary. Another example of one of these combinations would be infatuated love. This kind of love occurs when a person is very passionate about someone without feeling a sense of intimacy or commitment. Infatuated love can be fueled by an obsession. Many people view infatuated love as irresponsible, immature and blind love built solely on unreasonable passion, which could simply stem from a sexual attraction.
He loved Guinevere more than his life…for life with her was unimaginable.” (Lister 62) Lancelot loved Guinevere more than he loved himself, more than his whole life. Just the thought of loving another woman instilled fury in his heart. “In the morning, however, he woke to find not Guinevere lying beside him…Before he could strike she opened her eyes and spoke.” (Lister 65) Some would say that the best part of love and relationships is “the chase: The difficulty in attaining the hand of your “prey” determines how much you will love them in the end. For example, playing “hard to get” is a very common obstacle that “courtier” must overcome. Seeing that the one you’re “chasing” is showing little interest in you and your advances often times feeds the inferno of love burning in your soul.