We Are Our Own Worst Enemy

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We Are Our Own Worst Enemy It all started with a story. A story intended to get us talking. You see, something horrific had happened. While I was at the grocery store, I observed another teenage girl holding a can of soda to her mouth. And taking a sip. Being friends who would NEVER do such a thing, we could instantly rattle off a handful of reasons why this was so terrible. The strong, new teeth coming in. Oh, we had our opinions. And we were clearly right. In our own minds. This got me thinking. Thinking about how we tend to befriend those most like ourselves. And when we meet, or as in the soda case, even hear about those that may not be quite enough like us, it’s an opportunity for us to talk. To reinforce what we think and pass judgment. Sure, when it comes to the big picture, we women proudly wear our “we’re all the same” badge. On the outside, we like to appear unified. Dig deeper and we discover how we put ourselves in categories and it's not always nice. We can be very hard on each other. Typically we start by labeling ourselves as "mothers." Then we continue. It goes far beyond the hotly debated working vs. non working split. It's the groups we create next that separate us even more. Make divisions within divisions. What are we trying to accomplish? By only bottle feeding both Big Guy and Little Guy, I cut myself off from more that available to us? We may award the “better mommy prize” to those who volunteer compared to those who spend days shopping. We discuss all the activities our children participate in and wear their accomplishments as representations of ourselves, posted proudly on our cars. We have all been there, quietly passing judgment on a mother with an unruly child. Or the mother with what she thinks is the perfect child. Or a marriage we observe that seems sort of odd. Not being malicious, but nonetheless, adding

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