This is the ability to be you without pretence or façade. This is also called genuineness; it is the most important attribute in counselling according to Rogers, in this the counsellor is keen to allow the client to experience them as they really are, the therapist being authentic. Unconditional Positive Regard: (UPR) this is a non-judgemental, Respecting and accepting the other person as they are, Rogers believed that for people to grow and fulfil their potential it is important that they are valued as themselves. The counsellor has a genuine regard for the client, they may not approve of some of the client’s actions, but the therapist does approve of the client. The therapist needs an attitude of “I’ll accept you as you are.” The therapist must always maintain a positive attitude to the client at all times.
Self reflection is also knowing that I may need professional development in an area. This is needed so that I can be able to show unconditional positive regard, a non judgemental attitude and to be able to show empathy. Therefore it is important that I take time out to reflect in my performance and development. Self awareness can also be done in supervision or through peers. It helps to keep one’s mind fresh and with new ideas on how to deal with issues which I face during my sessions with a client.
Such ability is considered at the essence of all effective therapeutic relationships. Clearly if the therapist holds certain judgements for the client which for whatever reason cannot be put aside for the benefit of the client there is an immediate barrier to effective rapport building. At the very least the client may detect in some intangible way such a barrier and sense it as the therapists’ ‘dislike’ of them which would immediately hinder their susceptibility to relaxing and engaging honestly with the therapist. ‘If your belief system gets in the way of working with a particular client, then you must refer that client to someone else who would be comfortable with them’ Ericksonian Approaches A Comprehensive Manual Battino & South Crown House Publishing 1999. Building a positive regard with your client however, goes beyond your own personal beliefs.
Level 3 Counselling Skills T/601/7567 LEVEL 3 CERTIFICATE IN COUNSELLING SKILLS T/601/7567 Rob Stawell Defining counselling skills & definition. The definition from the BACP is:- A certain type of helping activity in which one person (the helper) respects the value, resources & capacity for self opportunity for them (the client) to work towards living in more satisfying and resourceful ways. ‘Also counselling (helping) is an activity freely entered into by the person seeking help, it offers the opportunity to identify things for the client themselves. It is clearly & explicitly contracted, and the boundaries of the relationship identified. The activity is designed to help with self exploration and understanding.
| This can be related to Argyle’s Theory of Communication because if the patient, staff member or client has an idea then they won’t be able to communicate that idea because they may feel like they are an outsider. | Self Esteem | Effective communication empowers people to value others and build a positive self-image and may also build their confidence. | However, if there is a lack of communication the client or patient may feel that they can’t voice their opinions or ideas because of their lack of confidence and self-esteem. | This can be related to Argyle’s Theory of Communication because if the patient, staff member or client has an idea then they won’t be able to communicate that idea because they may feel like they are an outsider and may even feel like they aren’t
moving from catastrophising (no one will ever like me) to a more rational interpretation (my friend was probably thinking about something else and didn’t see me). This in turn helps the patient to feel better, and eventually become more self-accepting. Another part of RET is unconditional positive regard which is basically making the patient feel valued as a human no matter what they say or do or event how they
Also the service provider is needed to have empathy and know how to sympathise with the client. Also the counsellor must engage a healthy relationship with the client and enable the client to trust the counsellor and be able to talk openly without and judgments being
We have to learn not to judge other people, because what is right to us may not be right for others. We cannot judge what people should or should not do. Being non-judgemental means acknowledging that others can believe differently. People who are going through the similar situation can show empathy to the other person by reassuring them and sharing positive advice to them instead of insulting
Central to the therapist's role in client-centred therapy is respecting the clients values as well as maintaining a therapeutic nonjudgmental attitude. This relationship can be even be more important, especially if the client doesn't have any family or friends. Because most clients seems to have lost a sense of value within themselves, having someone perceive them as a valuable person, capable of personal growth, should have an encouraging affect. The goals of the client-centered therapist are congruence, unconditional
Often counseling is a process that enables a person sought out times of change or crisis, as well as psychotherapy, Counseling and psychotherapy is a process that enables a person to sort out issues and reach decisions affecting their life. Often counselling and psychotherapy is sought out at times of change or crisis, it need not be so, however, as counselling can also help us at any time of our life. Counselling involves talking with a person in a way that helps that person solve a problem or helps to create conditions that will cause the person to understand and improve their behaviour, character, values or life